It's toatally mature to follow her every post on FB just to see her emotional suffering.


Generally, if you have to ask if something is wrong, you pretty much know it is. Move on.

You won't get far. To be an officer tiered rank, you need at least two years of successfully completed college. (If I recall what my recruiter said right)

And many colleges have ROTC programs on Campus anyway. There's really no reason not to go to a traditional 4-year, or even try West Point if you also want a military career.

There's a German word for it... schadenfreude. Taking pleasures in the misfortune of others. KInda surprises me that we never developed a separate English word for it.

Its normal to have conflicting emotions, especially over something like this.

Unless you go yourself and cause some sort of disturbance in the relationship, like saying something bad to her boyfriend about her or something, then no. As long as you're not doing anything, you're allowed to think and wish for what you like.

she got together with someone else a week after you broke up? either the new guy was dabbling in your relationship or she broke up with you to be with him

in either case, you should look for someone else and keep your distance, if your interested in finding a real relationship that is

The irony of the situation is that she broke up with her old boyfriend to go out with me then the same thing happens to me months later, I kinda got a taste of my own medicine and its not the good orange flavored kind.

Laugh it up.

Always a bad, bad sign. Do not go back there unless she stays single for maybe, oh, two years or so, to show that it is in fact you she wants.

Or just find a new one. She sounds like too much trouble. And she complains publicly about her relationship issues. THAT is not something you want.

I'm no expert, but it sounds to me like you put too much presure on her,
with her saying that she cannot love you as much as you love her.
Which is really a [censored] answer when it comes down to it,
if she really did care then she would have given you a chance to work on it,
or she should have. Also if she replaced you after a week then she was
certainly interested in that that other guy before she told you she wanted to
break up.
In any case, she was not interested in you anymore.

Remember, her problems are not your problems. If you want you can be supportive,
but let her deal with her own problems.
If you're outright enjoying her misery then stop, because that's just sadistic.

When people are heartbroken it's only natural to want revenge on the people who
we feel have wronged and hurt us. I know that feeling. But trust me, nothing
good comes from feeding that emotion.

It sounds like she is taking up a lot of space in your life, even though she
isn't really a part of it anymore.

My advise to you isn't to forget about her, but instead try to focus on other parts
of your life that makes you happy and feel alive.
Accept that you arn't together anymore, but can still enjoy each others company.
But don't waste your time on feeding bad emotions.

When it comes to negatie emotions, like heartbreak, jealousy and revenge then
it's stupid to try to make them go away - it's impossible they will always be there,
but it is possible to make peace with them and scale them down til they don't
bother you anymore

geez, long post...

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In short:
Get on with your life, enjoy it and let her take care of own

As long as you're not actively trying to sabotage her future relationships, it is fine to take some joy in her downfall.

Also, I wouldn't touch such a girl with a 10' foot poll. She's moving through boyfriends way to fast for my tastes.

I think this is the most important thing. If you start getting drawn into it more then is necessary, and feeling bad for her then she wins. Despite what most women will tell you, they do not always win.

Unless you really want to go out with her again, I'd rub it in her face straight up. Spite is kinda my thing and it feels marvelous :thumbsup:

well even after you get out of high school and get back from the army, girls will have become a lot more interesting and less full of drama. Yes they will still have drama, but they won't have the high school drama. The non high school drama is a lot easier to deal with IMO.

Yell in her face "Take that you !" Sparta style. Make a youtube movie out of it and post it up on facebook. Remember it has to feature her throwing you out of the window.

Defenestration. THE coolest term, period.

Utterly, this.

yes, it is. as much as this is not answer you might want to hear, it is; means you are still stewing in your own bitter juices of not forgiving her and poisoning your own food with those juices. unless you can say 100% honestly, to yourself and anyone else, that there is no resentment left, in which case it still is wrong to keep thinking about it because you'd still be stewing in your own bitter juices of not forgiving yourself for your past mistakes and poisoning your own food with those juices. so if you still have a problem with her dumping you, or think you do, which it sound like you do but i can't say for you, then go and tell her that, explaining how it made you feel and how you still want to her crush and burn or whatever it is that is left unsaid. but don't hope that she does burn. wishing she burns is nothing but self-pitying revenge i think, so instead just let her know how you are left feeling after the brake up. if you can't face to face, do it in the FB message, i guess. but be nice about it. friends can talk about past hurts, pains, problems, etc(including past brake up baggage) and still stay friends. and if she dumps you after you try to fix this completely, then you have to wonder if she was a friend or just wanted you around for whatever reason and un-friended you when things got to complete honesty.

consider your motives, too. if you still want to get back with her, then that could be why you think you are out for revenge. so do some honest admitting if there is some, and accept that its over. this would be especially important because if you start talking about it, she might start wondering and then eventually ask if that is what you are after still, to try and get back with her. so by then you can say with clean conscience that no, it ain't.

when you do talk to her, go with something as civil as possible, like, i don't know, maybe like this: "i think i am still not over you dumping me. [or "I am still not completely over the..."]. its not so much about wanting to get back together or the dumping itself as much as that you don't know how painful it was and i never got over that because it was never fully discussed..."

(adjust text to fit prompts of your own conscience, i'd say. plus, if it was fully discussed, full closure, then you, my friend, just need to move on, including forgiving yourself for your fast mistakes)

or something like that. don't just fire up "you [censored], why you dumped me? don't you know it made me feeling like [censored]?"

if you insist you need to fire up like that but don't want to upset anyone, then do it in like Word document, as if you are writing to her, and just unload it all, no matter how hard(freedom is in letting go, even if letting go is hard or you don't feel like letting go) and then delete it all, don't save it, just type, unload, delete, and forget. if something is left over after this experiment, consider that this is how you still feel, so might want to either get over whatever remains or hope she won't send her bf after you and or un-friend you, etc for your honest disclosure or for your trying to get back with her or whatever.

and as Mamagato said, generally, if you have to wonder, you pretty much know it is.