I went ahead and followed the http://forums.steampowered.com/forums/showthread.php?t=1306005 on installing mods listed there for enhanced visuals, sound, and gameplay. I also found other things to install like T.I.E (which no one has answered my question on how to get it to work with OOO or BC, one of those, since if I enable it I get over 200 pts over in weight on my updated saved game).
I am installing the MMM mod but don't understand what it means by the option of More Wilderness Life No Gates:
Adds 'More Wilderness Life', but removes all the spawn points that were added to Oblivion gates.
gates? what gates?