I'm not very good with the lore either, or at least when it revolves around the "higher planes" of existence. It seems pretty much right though, perhaps with the exception of Anu and Padomay, for which I am unable to locate any actual description of their location. It makes sense, however.
As for the Mantellan Crux, I do not believe it actually existed in Aetherius - rather, it may have been on the fringe of Aetherius or even a plane of Oblivion. I always assumed the Aetherius to be rather barren, further reinforced by the fact the Aedra do not inhabit it as people once believed. When Zurin Arctus originally destroyed the Numidium, the Mantella was not magically, but rather
physically hurled into Aetherius with the golem's destruction.
I don't know what to make of that, but perhaps it exists alongside or even
created one of the "stars" when it punctured Oblivion? Just some wild speculation. Bear in mind that Daggerfall flushed out a lot of lore, but still was rather flakey with cosmology. I believe it was simply some miscellaneous alternate dimension at the time, and the games that followed certainly did little to shed more light on its existence.
All in all, I think you've got it nailed.