My load order is as seen below, sorry I don't know how to do the show/hide thing so its a long post.
Oblivion.esm
EnhancedWeather.esm
Mart's Monster Mod.esm
arrwspanddmgfix.esp <-------------------------------------
Crowded Roads Advanced.esp
Crowded Cities 15.esp
Nightfix.esp
SniperSneakSkillup.esp
Unofficial Oblivion Patch.esp
UOP Vampire Aging & Face Fix.esp
Oblivion Citadel Door Fix.esp
MMM.esp
EnhancedWeather.esp
EnhancedWeather - Darker Nights, 80.esp
Enhanced Water v2.0 HD.esp
DLCHorseArmor.esp
DLCHorseArmor - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCOrrery.esp
DLCOrrery - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCVileLair.esp
DLCVileLair - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCMehrunesRazor.esp
DLCMehrunesRazor - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCSpellTomes.esp
DLCSpellTomes - Unofficial Patch.esp
ACCCGR SI.esp
ACCCGR.esp
BlackGlovesEng.esp
ComfortableClothing.esp
Darkgreen Glass Armour.esp
DLCThievesDen.esp
DLCThievesDen - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCThievesDen - Unofficial Patch - SSSB.esp
Mart's Monster Mod.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Additional Enemy NPC Vars.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Diverse Imperial Armor.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Gems & Gem Dust.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Hunting & Crafting.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Looting NPCs & Creatures.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Durability & Damage.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Spawn Rates - Increased.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Dungeons of MMM.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - More Wilderness Life.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - City Defences.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Extra Wounding.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Farm Animals.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Diverse WaterLife.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Slof Horses Complete.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Diverse Runeskulls Loot G&GD.esp
DLCFrostcrag.esp
DLCFrostcrag - Unofficial Patch.esp
Knights.esp
Knights - Unofficial Patch.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Knights.esp
Harvest [Flora].esp
Harvest [Flora] - DLCVileLair.esp
Harvest [Flora] - DLCFrostcrag.esp
KT_KhajEyeToggle.esp
KT_KhajEyeToggleNoEff.esp
P1DkeyChain.esp
GalerionUnarmoredAcrobatics.esp
Sneak Effectiveness Enhancement.esp
300ft_crime_detection-7319.esp
More_Arrows_Recovered-2169.esp <--------------
Mart's Monster Mod - Resized Races.esp
Sneak Attack Multipliers Medium.esp
Concealing_Hoods.esp
Illumination.esp
weightless_ ingredients.esp
RD-TimeKeeper-v1-3-2minUpdate.esp
Syc_AtHomeAlchemy_No_Bounty_v2.esp
Nerf Alchemy.esp
Alluring Potion Bottles v3.esp
Alluring Wine Bottles.esp
Realistic_Armor_Weights-2194.esp
Realistic_Weapon_weights-3534.esp
OneTenth_Weight_Arrows-5794.esp <------------
Enhanced Economy.esp
A second thing I have a question on is, how would I get my game to not freeze on exit? I use OBSE for some of the mods and had to switch to the obse.exe load up as the instructions say to do for the mods to work, but I'm not sure if that is whats causing the problem. I have never switched to obse.exe before in the years I have played oblivion and never had this problem. Essentially when I quit the game to the main menu and then exit the game it freezes on the screen and I can't get it off. Trying to minimize to windows or ctrl/alt/dlt won't work at all. I have to just turn my computer off, which I don't like doing. If I exit the game straight from the menu within the game world I get the same problem most of the time although once in a while it will work. I don't know what causes this, though I am thinking obse.exe and I have no idea how to fix this. At this point its making me not really want to play oblivion from not being able to safely turn the game off.
Any help for these problems would be great. Thanks.