Part of the problem is that "realism" means different things to different people.
Like, you say "I'm not a fan of excess realism" and someone jumps in with "well, fine, just get rid of gravity & start swining 50 foot long swords that split mountains". Which isn't remotely what the first statement said.
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I agree with several of the statements said here:
1) Different people have different tastes
2) Realism isn't always opposed to enjoyment - BUT, the overzealous pursuit of "realism features" can easily detract from gameplay and enjoyment.
3) Different game settings & genres have different standards for "realistic".
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I, personally, have never seen the TES games I've played (MW & OB) as "realistic". Or even in pursuit of realism. They're fun fantasy games, not life sims. And making them so..... would remove a good bit of the enjoyment. For me.
(Another random example - the SimCity games. I played the original black&white game. I enjoyed it some, but wasn't very good at it. As the sequels came out, and it added more detail & "realism"..... I enjoyed them less. Because I personally don't enjoy massive levels of micromanagement. Which, in the end, is what the SimCIty games are all about. So - the amount of "realism" that makes sense for a game series... reduced the enjoyment.... for a player. Interesting how that worked.
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Hmm, and similarly - I play some FPS games. Both fantastic ones and "historical" ones (i.e, I've played games from the Marathon, Quake, Doom, & Half-life series. I've played the original CoD & Medal of Honor games. Etc, etc, etc). I've seen info about other "more real" ones like Arma, or some of the squad-combat counterterrorism games. And they don't look enjoyable (Again, to me). I look for "fun" in my games, and those don't look fun.
And so... I choose not to play those games that don't look like I'd enjoy them. But, like I said, I've never seen the TES games as "realism" style. So, all these calls for "it needs to be more realistic! Real drowning! real jumping! real fatigue! real eating and sleeping! Real, real, real!" seems like trying to hijack the games away from what they are. :shrug: