I was wandering who I should join. seems if you join one you lose the other cause of the war they've been having

Dude it's Fallout. Only YOU can choose. There's no fun if you knew the outcome of picking one side to the other. If you really can't choose on your own.. then get Boone as a companion.. he'll choose a side for you.. weither you like it or not

Guess ur right i just dont want everything to go to hell y'know?

Im pretty sure there is way to convince the NCR to not pop the brotherhood in the butt

What, you didn't get enough of being the BOS's errand boy in FO3?

You're really asking whether you should side with a tiny, mis-managed faction that hates you and treats you like dirt, or whether you should side with the faction is a freaking nation with its own standing army, outposts, special forces, towns, and citizenship benefits?

Well, it's Fallout. Do want you want. Then play again and do the other thing next time!

Isn't it possible to negotiate a peaceful settlement between BoS and NCR in the NCR questline?

Also, regardless of anything the BoS has done, at the end of the day they're still the guys with lasers in power armor, and that's badass.