1 - Well, the best answer to that is....sometimes. I don't think weapons degrade from use, but they can be damaged by gunfire/splash damage, even to the point of them dropping the now-broken weapon (not often). Typically their armor rarely takes any damage, but their weapons do a bit more often.
2 -Yes, companions need ammo for any weapon you give them. Their default is the only one that never runs out of ammo
3 - My experience says it's the DPS they choose from. (edit)And how they determine the DPS seems based on THEIR current skills, not yours. Which is why sometimes they switch back & forth from one ranged weapon to another sometimes (or 2 diff. melee)...their skills are such that the two weapons are almost identical DPS and I think they get confused which to choose.
4 - My experience says there's no preference per se, however if you have both 5.56 regular and 5.56AP in their inventory, they will use up the non-AP entirely
first. So if you want them to use the 5.56AP, you have to remove the other types.
5 - Sadly....no. (edit) Want to clarify - they will benefit from fire rate, bigger magazine type weapon mods. But the silencer...no. Scope...not that I can tell.