http://www.nvidia.com/object/nvidia-multigpu-SLI-profile-update-v7-driver.html
applied it, and crysis2.exe and crysis2demo.exe both now show up with an "Nvidia Recommended (Custom)" SLI setting. My cards are now working perfectly, and my framerates went way up (90fps @1929x1080 advanced).
I havent noticed the flicker again either, but I KNOW it cured my GPU underutilization!