was the hard work for naught, or did it pay off with the comaradarie of your team mates?

thats the ticket to overcoming grief.. look at the big picture.. look for the silver lining.
Life is filled with grief, but moreso if you focus on that grief.

Nope. I've got my wife, daughter, step-son, close friends to tend to. And they are honestly more important to me than anything, sports, video games.

But, you know what. To everyone who has replied to me. You're right. I've got better things to do than worry about padding the OPs feelings about losing the championship. Specifically, make sure the old people in this nursing home can live out the rest of their lives knowing their building won't burn down.

Also, you're all right too. Yup, I'm on a video game forum. I'm on here when I've got a little down time here at work. Or, when I'm home. But like I said earlier, playing games whether they are sports or video is inconsequential to whats actually going on around you. But, again, you're right. Who am I? But, when someone asks how to deal with grief he can't honestly expect to be coddled by everyone can he? He asked how to deal with it. I replied with what I said because in all honesty, his losing the high-school lacrosse championship doesn't matter to anything else that's going on. Sorry, like I told my helper yesterday, I don't view sports in the same way as the population. I could honestly care less. But, its evident everyone else seems to put sports above everything else.

Wow, OP two years? I professionally mountain biked for 3 and you know what. Circumstances came by that forced me to quit. I certainly wasn't as upset about leaving my favorite sport as you seem to be. Guess, because I view it in a different light. But whatever........

<== Actually tries to make the world a better place instead of worrying about losing a stupid game; whether a sport that is played or a video game.

On that. Have fun OP worrying about a stupid game. And to everyone else....have fun.......

lolol, by posting on a game forum? :laugh: You strike me of someone who has, perhaps, an undeserved sense of self accomplishment. Unless you are actually doing something to make the world a better place, I don't think you can get all high and mighty on a video game forum

You know, I had typed out a response.

But then decided, I don't have to justify myself to anyone on the internet. Have fun.

because he is poting on an internet forum, that must be his example of helping the world, or is it possible you all are misreading what he is trying to say?

can you see the forrest through the trees?

Sports is not stupid. Alot of people say video games are stupid does that mean they are correct? To say something is stupid, is to no place a label on something. So now all the 5 year olds playing T-Ball are being stupid or all the people who play sports for fun and excersise is being stupid? There are people who would say playing sports is better than to be playing video games indoors and not doing anythign physical.

I think you are missing the point on the OP The Tallest. This has nothing to do about winning or loosing, but more of his life is changing. I would agree with you 100% if this was all about winning and loosing. I am sure this is not the point. Even if his team won the championship, he would still be feeling the same, about a week or two or a month or two later. This is about him loosing his comadiership from his teamates, just like how alot of amry vetreans loose comadiership when they are not in the force no more.

This is a life altering event for him, (or is it her?) not about winning or loosing a Championship.

No please enlighten us as to how you make this world a better place, as you so boast. Perhaps if we were all like The Tallest, the world would be a peaceful place with smiles and rainbows all the time.

But I digress. Yet another person who is so self-convinced that only they do any good in the world, when really that self-conviction simply makes the world a more arrogant place. I take my leave good sir.

I never said sports whether watching them or playing them is stupid. What I think is absolutely ridiculous is how people over-react when it comes to sports. Like because the OP lost his entire world is crumbling around him. Like his life has just ended. Especially when there is so much other things in life to worry about.

And the reason why I erased my other post is because I don't feel I need to explain what it is I do for a living. It just doesn't matter, just like the OP's life isn't ending because he lost a high-school championship. I also never stated that I'm the only one who makes the world a better place. Obviously the soldiers I mentioned in my original post do far more than anyone I know.

I know what you mean. It is hard to explain to people about how pationate sports can be. Just look at Football (or soccer) when teams or countries play. See the passion in the stands for it. Same for hockey when it's country vs country, the fans and players can really be passionate about the game.

There is nothing wrong with this, even though many people say it is. Look at Cricket in India and Pakistan and other places, they are just as passionate about thier game as well. It is easy for people to over react and get wrapped in the sport, even though we should be taking that energy else where. But do we really have to take it else where? What is wrong in cheering and being so passionate about the games we so love.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQ3Njn8DKQ4

I don't think being condescending helps conquer grief. People value things differently, which you don't understand.

it sure is fun watching people read too much into the wrong parts of a post