Yes. The 4Gb patch will allow you to play for longer periods before Oblivion OOMs and crashes, and the stutter remover will provide a notable improvement to the stuttering which is thanks to Vanilla Oblivion's horrible optimization.
Nothing to add. Both, the OSR with OBSE and the 4GB should be applied for most fluent gameplay.
Though I know lots of modders find this arguable, I wouldnt consider other mods like streamline essential.
kuertee also does offer a http://www.tesnexus.com/downloads/file.php?id=24606 which makes save games more reliable, though I do not have any statistics on this matter. but I use it too.