I miss Slof's stuff, they were different.
You can still find it on her site, if you're willing to navigate through Xenomorph porm. I liked some of her stuff too. Her horse replacers were great, as were some of her robes, and she did the work to put together the Better Beasts mod, and honestly, I'm not knocking her for making "advlt" mods at all. What I'm complaining about was that when a bunch of fifteen year olds said "you make dong mods for oblibvion you're weird and gross" she made a big huff and pulled all of her stuff off the modding sites forever rather than ignoring them or better yet saying "yeah, I guess it is weird, deal with it" and going on her merry way. "Professionalism" isn't the right word for what is essentially a hobby, but really, people need to learn to handle this stuff better.
I've always had very positive experiences within the modding community, people tend to be very helpful and kind. Of course there is a bad apple here and there. In my experiences at least, maybe it is just who i chose to deal with.
I consider the modding community the people actually creating the mods. What you describe to me sounds more like everyone else that visits Nexus downloads every mod, [censored]es about them, but never contribute anything to the community, i.e. never published a file in their life. That is the half of the community that always makes me ask myself "why am I doing this?" It's also why I would never give a developer the grief some people here do because they think that $59 USD entitles them to do so. However it is my passion so I chug on choo choo
DISCLAIMER: Your experiences may vary, but that has been mine.
That's life. If you make something purely out of love and do it in your sparse free time and craft it and mold it and edit it so that it's as good as it can be, and it's completely original and, in your eyes, the best you can do and something to be proud of, and then you put it on display for all the world to see, I guarantee you that you will hear this:
"This svcks. What worthless trash."
And if all it takes is a chorus of stupid people making noises at you to indicate their displeasure (or more often than you'd think just trying to get a rise out of you) to make you stop doing what you're doing, you might as well have never bothered in the first place. People are jerks. Period. There's no avoiding it and no escaping it. All you can do is manage the jerks and shut them out.