ok im wanting a shadow knight type custom class. i want heavy armor sword and shield yet i want to use some sort of magic.. thinking a sword guy with maybe some necro and healing built in

I wouldn't bother much with Restoration (healing magic) for starters, it progresses very slowly and has limited usefulness imho. If you want to use magic it sounds like Destruction and Conjuration are what you're looking for. Mysticism is also useful. Illusion isn't much use unless you're going with stealth. Also if you're using heavy armor and blade you should probably pick up armorer to repair things

Well your skill set will be:

Conjuration, Restoration, Blade, Block, Heavy Armor so far.

Add Restoration and Illusion...you got it. Illusion is arguably the most powerful school of magic, with many many great spells. Coupled with Conjuration you can lead a small army. Restoration is just as much of a damage dealer, as it is a healer. The Fortify can buff out a warrior, to tank in a battle, right along side the conjured and commanded buddies. The down side, is that armor will drag your effectiveness of spells. The Command spell will become less useful at higher levels. Still Illusion is happenin'.

These, being your Major skills, will raise faster. That doesn't mean you cant use minors. Armorer raises fairly quickly. You can afford to keep it as a minor.

that is the build i went with last night and it seemed to work great i did add blade and illusion.. my first character i was a rogue type and it seems like on the 360 the stealth is very buggy and not only could i not take a hit but without the surprise attack bonus i had to cheese and run around and spam heals before i could attack and again... with the build i went with last night not only could i stay alive but i was destroying things i went dark elf for RP reasons just seems the miX of CONJ and RESTRO built with blade block and heavy armor makes for one beast guy