Dificulty in this game can at times be whack, as someone who leveled to 44 before touching the main quest I can say shouts help... a LOT. A companion helps a lot too on certain crazy ass fights, and at least one crafting skill is pretty much essential in this game.
Even companions don't really help that often. I only found Farkas a little helpful on some of the quests but I can't always take him with me. Lydia joins me most of the time even though she's annoying the hell out of me from time to time however I feel like she's less helpful then Farkas. Also I find it funny that whenever I used certain spells as a mage I felt like they did little damage to my enemies, however when enemies use spells I feel like they are far more effective? So far when it comes to crafting I've been looking into enchanting and alchemy more then I ever did in tes games lol. Alchemy really helps creating potions that get me through a battle however I would hate to rely on potions for the rest of my life?
Would be easier to help you if you can be a bit more specific

if you have trouble against multiple enemies, try to bring a follower with you could save you alot of headache. There are some monsters such as trolls/giants are just too hard for early equipments, are you running to them often?
Anything, mostly multiple enemies but also creatures like trolls, or sabretooth tigers. Also I found myself get kicked by these dwemer spiders. Mostly spiders in general are easy to kill, wolves and that sort of low level enemies are not even a threat. I also find it somewhat funny that I find it easier to kill a dragon than most of the "larger" creatures ingame.
My style of play sounds very similar to yours and I'm also taking it slow. I'm still on the east side of the map and I have Lydia with me. I've joined the College of Winterhold too. Lydia took me into an area the other day that was filled with creatures and I kept dying. We did finally make it through using a lot of different tactics. I'd been taking Magicka most when I leveled up so I took a look at my Health level and decided to take it more. I've taken it the last few times and things have improved. Are you getting your Health level up high enough?

Watch the skies.
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Yeah maybe I should focus on that a bit more, so far I've been trying to balance things out a bit, I think they are all around 140/150 right now but maybe it's easier to focus on one thing for now which is health.