I tried FONV vanilla version when it first came out, but found that I lost interest maybe mid-way through the game. I have decided to give it another try, and would like to play it with mods this time. I did this w/ Oblivion and w/ FO3. My problem is that I end up installing too many mods in Nexus Mod Manager, such that game becomes unstable. I'm like a kid in a candy store: "That looks cool" etc etc

I am hoping to keep my mod list down to a more reasonable number, maybe 20 tops. I am especially interested in the following:

A) Nicer interface, both a la Darnified (though it looks like he might have abandoned his FONV mod?) and immersive HUD
B Better graphics and textures, for everything. My rig is plenty powerful, and part of what turned me off about FONV was how bland and mediocre the graphics are, even on ultra settings.
C) Better inventory approach (more hotkeys, easier way of keeping track of and labelling items)
D) Less buggy- any community bug fix patches
E) Overhauls a la MMM or OOO for Oblivion- things that make NV a more dangerous, varied, and overall more interesting place.

I'm hoping I can go about the modding process more intelligently this time, with less conflict and bloat.

Thanks a lot.

PS- Is BOSS and NMM all I need, or do I also need Fallout Mod Manager (which looks like it might no longer be being worked on by its author)?