Regarding being hassled by the guards, what is your legal status? They want to arrest you for criminal conspiracy if your status in the province is pond scum or lower. And of course, Daggerfall guards will find you
anywhere. I'm surprised they don't haul me out of dungeons.
The following is my tl;dr advice from a Daggerfall new player who has done a fair bit of research:
As for the rest, yeah, welcome to Daggerfall. I'm not sure I get it either, but I'm getting some fun out of it (been playing for a couple of months or so). I find gaming the system and RPing around the bugs is a neccessity. If I hear you correctly, the real frustration comes when the game doesn't play by its own rules. But when you begin to understand how the game breaks or glitches it's own rules, you can kind of follow
those rules and get back to the game. Not sure if that makes sense-I haven't finished my coffee
Also, if you can adapt your gaming style to the game it helps. Don't be afraid to fail: go to jail, get your butt handed to you, get kicked out of a guild (only
really svcks for the Thieves and the Brotherhood), or run away from everything for a few levels. Everything short of death is part of the game. If you are RPing, this can add to your character's experience.
If your copy came with the original manual it can really help you understand the developers' sense of how to best experience the game.
Lastly, I haven't checked your link, but there is a link on the UESP wiki to a DOSbox/DF fully-loaded and patched bundle. I use this; however, it's still bugged. Many features simply don't work as described in multiple sources and versions. Also, the host site is French language, so I still come here or the UESP to gripe.
Remember, this is before the creation kit so the wonderful community of modders and fans has had more limited tools to fix DF.