Its a bit comlicated and involves time travel, so bear with me.
What if Numidium did come to life, only moving backwards into time and not forwards like everyone else?
I cannot remember if Numidium went explodey at the time of the ascension of the Triune, but if it did, an explosion viewed backwards is coalescion.
Now the reason that no-one saw Numidium stomping around before it got activated is that in the then-then, the first past, where they walked to the future point of activation, it did not because it was not active yet.
Only in the now-then after the activation does it move towards the beginning of time.
Numidium was supposed to return to the 'first brushstroke of Anu and Padomay' so timetravel seems logical.
If the causality was reversed and the Dwemer started a backwards journey in time the moment they became one with the robot, then the Dwemer souls do not inhabit the Numidium in the future-now past the point of Kagrenac's actions and its logical it didnt come to life.
In short, could it be that the Dwemer are on a journey travelling backwards in time, unseen by anyone because in the then-then it had not happened yet, only in the new now-then the Dwemer travel in.
I hope this makes sense. As Pratchett said: 'Its hard to talk about time travel in a language evolved to tell other monkeys where the ripe fruit is.'