- I'm new to the community, and Oblivion in general, so please mind my stupidity.

- I play Oblivion on my brother's computer, since my own laptop is Windows Vista, and I'd rather not ask more questions than necessary. My brother would have probably been able to help me, but he's in Japan for another four months. (Yay, unrelated topic!)
Anyways, here are the problems.
1) When I attempt to load up Oblivion, it gets stuck in the loading screen for let's say, OVER 9000 hours... or when I decide to turn the computer off.
2) TES Construction Set has a tendency to freeze and crash when I'm opening my data files for some editing. It went from super-fast to super-slow in a matter of... a few hours with some modding sites. Sigh. I'm positive I don't have that many mods, so I don't know why that's happening.
3) If I manage to open up TES Construction Set without crashing, everything will run fine until I attempt to save. I'll press the button, it'll appear to save for a moment, and then the whole thing just crashes. It's an oddly neat crash, but it's a crash nevertheless.
4) I downloaded Sulteric Drums's Stoker Wolff (Male Companion), and there's a whole set of problems right there.
Before I start on the problems, here's the link to the download.
Spoiler
http://www.tesnexus.com/downloads/file.php?id=17743
Probelm #1: The NPC's poor face has suffered from plastic surgery. He has been faceless, excluding his shiny teeth, which left me relatively disturbed until it was fixed by the Facial Fix. However, his face is now black. It's not pitch-black, as you can see his nose and mouth, and eye sockets. Yes, he doesn't have deep, mesmerizing eyes either. -cry- Fortunately, his silky black hair has been left alone. I'm guessing I'm missing a few textures and/or meshes?
Problem #2: When I tell the NPC to change into his armor and follow me, his body disappears and I can see his sheathed weapon. It's very scary to walk around with a faceless, body-less head and glowing weapon trailing after you. Very scary.
By the way: don't judge me! I"m a growing girl with hormones and a need for romance!! x)
I've figured that the problems are probably my conflicting mods, which leads to a strange fact. I used BOSS to fix my load order, and then I checked for conflicts with OBMM. ...There were so many conflicts.
I'm still really, really new to the game, so I haven't quite gotten the hang of load orders yet. I'd try it myself, but I seriously do not want to mess up my game further.
Here's my load order:
Spoiler
Oblivion.esm
Francesco's Leveled Creatures-Items Mod.esm
Francesco's Optional New Items Add-On.esm
Francesco's Optional New Creatures Add-On.esm
Kvatch Rebuilt.esm
Progress.esm
HrmnsOblivionScriptOptimizationv1.0.esp
TNR ALL RACES FINAL.esp
TNR - ShiveringIsles.esp
Unofficial Oblivion Patch.esp
UOP Vampire Aging & Face Fix.esp
DLCShiveringIsles.esp
Unofficial Shivering Isles Patch.esp
ClocksOfCyrodiil.esp
HouseMapMarkersOnlyBought.esp
DLCHorseArmor.esp
DLCHorseArmor - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCOrrery.esp
DLCOrrery - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCMehrunesRazor.esp
DLCMehrunesRazor - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCSpellTomes.esp
DLCSpellTomes - Unofficial Patch.esp
Dreadweave Complete_Heavy.esp
vermillionandsilverthorn.esp
DLCThievesDen.esp
DLCThievesDen - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCThievesDen - Unofficial Patch - SSSB.esp
Francesco's Optional Files.esp
Kvatch Rebuilt.esp
24HrArenaAliveV2Towers.esp
DLCBattlehornCastle.esp
DLCBattlehornCastle - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCFrostcrag.esp
Knights.esp
Knights - Unofficial Patch.esp
Lost Paladins of the Divines.esp
Harvest [Flora].esp
Harvest [Flora] - Shivering Isles.esp
Harvest [Flora] - DLCFrostcrag.esp
Bag of Holding.esp
ReneersTrainingMod.esp
Quest Award Leveller.esp
Quest Award Leveller - Mehrunes Razor.esp
Quest Award Leveller - Knights of the Nine.esp
Alternative Start by Robert Evrae.esp
RenGuardOverhaul.esp
RealisticLeveling.esp
Beautiful People.esp
bgMagicEV.esp
bgMagicSpellTomes_for_WryeBash.esp
bgMagicItemSigil.esp
bgMagicEVStartspells.esp
bgMagicBonus.esp
Francesco's 10 days respawn time - 1-20 day lenght rescale.esp
bgMagicEVShader.esp
MiniMap.esp
StokerWolff.esp
Bashed Patch, 0.esp
++LIBRARY==================.esp
++LIBRARY+1================.esp
++COSMETIC=================.esp
++CLOTHING=================.esp
Personal.esp
Francesco's Leveled Creatures-Items Mod.esm
Francesco's Optional New Items Add-On.esm
Francesco's Optional New Creatures Add-On.esm
Kvatch Rebuilt.esm
Progress.esm
HrmnsOblivionScriptOptimizationv1.0.esp
TNR ALL RACES FINAL.esp
TNR - ShiveringIsles.esp
Unofficial Oblivion Patch.esp
UOP Vampire Aging & Face Fix.esp
DLCShiveringIsles.esp
Unofficial Shivering Isles Patch.esp
ClocksOfCyrodiil.esp
HouseMapMarkersOnlyBought.esp
DLCHorseArmor.esp
DLCHorseArmor - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCOrrery.esp
DLCOrrery - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCMehrunesRazor.esp
DLCMehrunesRazor - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCSpellTomes.esp
DLCSpellTomes - Unofficial Patch.esp
Dreadweave Complete_Heavy.esp
vermillionandsilverthorn.esp
DLCThievesDen.esp
DLCThievesDen - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCThievesDen - Unofficial Patch - SSSB.esp
Francesco's Optional Files.esp
Kvatch Rebuilt.esp
24HrArenaAliveV2Towers.esp
DLCBattlehornCastle.esp
DLCBattlehornCastle - Unofficial Patch.esp
DLCFrostcrag.esp
Knights.esp
Knights - Unofficial Patch.esp
Lost Paladins of the Divines.esp
Harvest [Flora].esp
Harvest [Flora] - Shivering Isles.esp
Harvest [Flora] - DLCFrostcrag.esp
Bag of Holding.esp
ReneersTrainingMod.esp
Quest Award Leveller.esp
Quest Award Leveller - Mehrunes Razor.esp
Quest Award Leveller - Knights of the Nine.esp
Alternative Start by Robert Evrae.esp
RenGuardOverhaul.esp
RealisticLeveling.esp
Beautiful People.esp
bgMagicEV.esp
bgMagicSpellTomes_for_WryeBash.esp
bgMagicItemSigil.esp
bgMagicEVStartspells.esp
bgMagicBonus.esp
Francesco's 10 days respawn time - 1-20 day lenght rescale.esp
bgMagicEVShader.esp
MiniMap.esp
StokerWolff.esp
Bashed Patch, 0.esp
++LIBRARY==================.esp
++LIBRARY+1================.esp
++COSMETIC=================.esp
++CLOTHING=================.esp
Personal.esp
I don't know what some of the mods are, as this used to be my brother's game.
I know it seems as though I'm not too worried about the messed up game. It's only because I'm not(yet) addicted to Oblivion, alright?

Heeeelp.