My load order is:
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Active Mod Files:00 Fallout3.esm01 Anchorage.esm02 ThePitt.esm03 BrokenSteel.esm04 PointLookout.esm05 Zeta.esm06 Unofficial Fallout 3 Patch.esm [Version 1.2.0]07 HairPack.esm08 Destruction.esm09 CRAFT.esm0A CALIBR.esm [Version 1.4]0B xCALIBR.esm0C Project Beauty.esm0D xCALIBRuniverse.esm0E 20th Century Weapons.esm0F ArefuExpandedByAzar.esm10 TheInstitute.esm11 CubeExperimental (EN).esm12 FO3 Wanderers Edition - Main File.esm13 Mart's Mutant Mod.esm14 LingsFinerThings.esm15 Companion Core.esm16 RobCo Certified v2.esm17 Wasteland Whisperer v2.esm18 RHKBrisaAlmodovar.esm19 Enhanced Weather - Rain and Snow.esm1A Xepha's Dynamic Weather.esm1B RTS NW.esm1C AmyWong.esm1D StreetLights.esm1E EnclaveCommander-OA-Pitt-Steel.esm1F Mothership Crew.esm20 TSC Air Support.esm21 CrossModData.esm22 Animy_prostitution.esm23 tubrrCompound.esm24 DCInteriors_ComboEdition.esm25 SeducingWomen.esm26 RH_IRONSIGHTS.esm27 FNNsys.esm28 Unofficial Fallout 3 Patch - Operation Anchorage.esp [Version 1.2.0]29 Unofficial Fallout 3 Patch - The Pitt.esp [Version 1.2.0]2A Unofficial Fallout 3 Patch - Broken Steel.esp [Version 1.2.0]2B Unofficial Fallout 3 Patch - Point Lookout.esp [Version 1.2.0]2C Unofficial Fallout 3 Patch - Mothership Zeta.esp [Version 1.2.0]2D DarNifiedUIF3.esp** Project Beauty- Broken Steel.esp** Project Beauty- Point Lookout.esp2E StreetLights - Wasteland.esp++ YearlingsGlasses.esp2F CASM.esp30 CRAFT - Activation Perk.esp31 Princess Better Prompts v1pt1.esp32 Overhead3PCamera.esp++ RH_IronSights_Basic_VanillaPlugin.esp++ RH_IronSights_Basic_AnchoragePlugin.esp33 RH_IronSights_Basic_PittPlugin.esp++ RH_IronSights_Basic_BrokenSteelPlugin.esp34 RH_IronSights_Basic_PointLookoutPlugin.esp35 RH_IronSights_Basic_ZetaPlugin.esp36 Feng Shui.esp [Version 0.9.2]37 GalaxyNewsRadio100[M].esp38 ArefuExpandedByAzar-Radio.esp39 VTAP50.esp3A UPP - Pack 1.esp3B UPP - Pack 2.esp3C UPP - Experience Perks.esp3D UPP - Quest Perks.esp3E UPP - Beverage Perks.esp3F Perk Revamp Mod - BS.esp40 NotSoFast.esp41 HeirApparent.esp42 IntoTheDeepWoods.esp43 PLweightadjust.esp44 tubRRCompound.esp45 RTS NW - Volume 1st.esp46 RTS NW - Volume 2nd.esp47 RTS NW - Volume 3rd.esp48 RTS NW - Volume 4 Stone.esp49 ColeensTent.esp4A Glow Sticks.esp4B BlackWolf Backpack.esp4C BlackWolf Backpack - Vendor Script Replenish.esp++ BlackWolf Backpack - Vanilla Big Guns Fix.esp++ BlackWolf Backpack - Anchorage Gauss Rifle Fix.esp++ BlackWolf Backpack - Zeta Drone Cannon Fix.esp4D TSC Air Support.esp4E merc_2.esp4F Merc2-RTS_NW.esp50 merc_2_pl.esp51 merc_2_bs.esp52 merc_2_pitt.esp++ Merc2-ZetaCrew.esp53 CRI-Squad-new.esp54 ShadySands.esp55 MaxLevelWorkaround-HP-BS.esp56 WastelandMastery.esp++ Destruction - Main.esp57 Destruction - Main - Statics.esp++ Destruction - DLC.esp58 Destruction - DLC - Statics.esp59 BusworldV1.05d.esp5A Mannequin.esp5B HiVE.esp5C UndergroundHideout.esp5D UndergroundHideout_SY.esp5E DCInteriors_DLC_Collectables.esp5F Megaton House and Theme Overhaul.esp60 RecieveTenpennySuite.esp61 Solace.esp62 WastelandHomes.esp63 FO3 Wanderers Edition - Main File.esp64 FO3 Wanderers Edition - DLC Anchorage.esp65 FO3 Wanderers Edition - DLC The Pitt.esp66 FO3 Wanderers Edition - DLC Broken Steel.esp67 FO3 Wanderers Edition - DLC Point Lookout.esp68 FO3 Wanderers Edition - DLC Mothership Zeta.esp69 FO3 Wanderers Edition - Alternate Travel.esp6A FO3 Wanderers Edition - Followers Enhanced (BrokenSteel).esp6B FO3 Wanderers Edition - Optional VATS Halftime.esp++ FO3 Wanderers Edition - Optional Restore Tracers (automatics only).esp++ FO3 Wanderers Edition - Project Beauty.esp++ FO3 Wanderers Edition - Project Beauty (Followers Enhanced).esp++ Return to Shady Sands - FWE weapons rebalance.esp++ FNNsys - FWE.esp6C Refurbishes [ALL].esp6D Tailor Maid.esp6E Tailor Maid Anchorage.esp6F Tailor Maid PITT.esp70 Tailor Maid Brokensteel.esp71 Tailor Maid ZETA.esp72 Tailor Maid Black Retex.esp73 WeaponModKits.esp74 WeaponModKits - FWE Master Release.esp75 WeaponModKits - OperationAnchorage.esp76 WeaponModKits - ThePitt.esp77 WeaponModKits - BrokenSteel.esp78 WeaponModKits - PointLookout.esp79 WeaponModKits - Zeta.esp7A WMK-RH IronSights.esp7B Tactical Weapons by gRs Frederyck.esp7C ZL-ACR.esp++ ZL-ACRForFWE.esp7D 3EFwandererGear.esp7E Dragonskin Tactical Outfit.esp7F DragonskinBonusPack.esp80 JackoMilitaryEquipment1.esp81 Ladyoutfit1.esp82 Mysteriouswoman_clothesaddon.esp83 kikaiEquipment.esp84 sunglassescollection.esp85 Powered Power Armor.esp86 PPA - Broken Steel.esp87 PPA - Operation Anchorage.esp88 PPA - FWE.esp89 DIM CUSTOM PRESETS V1.3WEB.esp8A Burnification.esp8B EVE.esp8C EVE Operation Anchorage.esp** EVE - FWE Master Release.esp++ EVE - FWE Master Release (Follower Enhanced).esp++ EVE Anchorage - FWE DLC Anchorage.esp++ EVE - FWE with WeaponModKits.esp8D Companion Core DLC Addon.esp8E Wasteland Whisperer v2 Broken Steel Addon.esp8F RobCo Certified v2 Mechanist's Edition.esp90 RobCo Certified v2 Zeta Addon.esp91 RobCo Certified v2 Omnipatch.esp92 Mart's Mutant Mod.esp93 Mart's Mutant Mod - DLC Anchorage.esp94 Mart's Mutant Mod - DLC The Pitt.esp95 Mart's Mutant Mod - DLC Broken Steel.esp++ Mart's Mutant Mod - DLC Point Lookout.esp96 Mart's Mutant Mod - DLC Zeta.esp++ Merc2-CorpseFly.esp++ Mart's Mutant Mod - Natural Selection.esp++ Mart's Mutant Mod - Tougher Traders.esp97 Mart's Mutant Mod - Zones Respawn.esp++ Mart's Mutant Mod - Master Menu Module.esp98 Mart's Mutant Mod - Project Beauty.esp99 Mart's Mutant Mod - FWE Master Release.esp9A Mart's Mutant Mod - Project Beauty + FWE.esp9B MMM_RtSS_Mod.esp++ SeducingWomen_-_override.esp9C LingsFinerThings.esp9D SeducedDLC03.esp9E LucyWestCompanion.esp9F bittercup_comp.espA0 JessiCompanion.espA1 KelseyCompanion.esp [Version 2.0]A2 AmyWong - FOSE.espA3 AmyWong - DLCs.espA4 AmyWong - CALIBR 1.3.espA5 AmyWong - FWE 5.espA6 Attentater's Wasteland Economy.espA7 FasterMorePowerfulMines.espA8 Owned!.esp [Version 3.0]A9 pinionsuite.espAA xCALIBRuniverse.esp++ xcal_boe_TRG_fix.esp++ xCALIBRuniverse_repairLists.espAB xCALIBRuniverse_ammoLists.espAC dD-Less Blood Time, Larger Blood.espAD dD-More Gore.espAE dD-More Gore-The Pitt.espAF dD-More Gore-BrokenSteel.espB0 dD-More Gore-PointLookout.espB1 dD-More Gore-Zeta.espB2 FO3 Wanderers Edition - More Gore.esp++ dD-Reduced Dismember Force.esp++ Fellout-pipboylight.espB3 MegatonLights.espB4 Enhanced Weather - Rain and Snow in Fallout.espB5 Enhanced Weather - Weather Sounds in Interiors.espB6 Enhanced Weather - Sneak Bonus during Storms.espB7 Fellout-Full.esp++ Fellout-Anchorage.esp++ Fellout-BrokenSteel.espB8 Fellout-PointLookout.espB9 Fellout-Zeta.espBA Xepha's Dynamic Weather - Main.espBB Xepha's Dynamic Weather - Anchorage.espBC Xepha's Dynamic Weather - The Pitt.espBD Xepha's Dynamic Weather - Broken Steel.espBE Xepha's Dynamic Weather - Point Lookout.espBF Xepha's Dynamic Weather - Rain.espC0 Xepha's Dynamic Weather - Sandstorm.espC1 Xepha's Dynamic Weather - NightTime SneakBoost.esp++ 20th Century v5 ALIVE (Vendor).esp++ 20th Century v5 ALIVE (NPC_Settler).esp++ 20th Century v5 ALIVE (Vault 101).esp++ 20th Century v5 ALIVE (RivetCity).esp++ 20th Century v5 ALIVE (Raider).esp++ 20th Century v5 ALIVE (Slaver).esp++ 20th Century v5 ALIVE (Chinese Ghoul).esp++ 20th Century v5 ALIVE (SuperMutant).esp++ 20th Century v5 ALIVE (Talon_Regulator).esp++ 20th Century v5 ALIVE (Brotherhood_Outcast).esp++ 20th Century v5 ALIVE (Containers).espC2 BringBackBael.espC3 AmyWong - Load Order Fix.esp++ Merc2-AmyWong.esp++ Destruction - CP - Fellout.espC4 Sydney Follower.esp++ Sydney Follower - Load Order Fix.esp++ Merc2-SydneyFollower.espC5 URWL.esp++ xCALIBR_override_FWE5.esp++ xCALIBR_2CW_CP.esp++ FWE(v.5.04)+WMK_weapons_xCALIBRified.esp++ FWE+WMKexcalibrified(Anch).esp++ FWE+WMKexcalibrified(Pitt).esp++ FWE+WMKexcalibrified(Lkout).esp++ frederyck+FWE+xCALIBR.esp++ FNNsys_destruction_patch.espC6 Bashed Patch, 0.esp
update: So it appears that if I save, exit the game and then reload, everything is normal. But as soon as I transition into a new area/fast travel the missing textures and meshes reappear