it really easy. just a couple of steps.
1. join a dead lobby.
2. inform your friend which lobby you are in.
3. delete your friend from psn.
4. have your friend join the dead lobby your in.
5. once hes joined the lobby you can join his squad from resent players list by pressing select. or he can join your squad.
6. then re-add friend to psn.
7. have fun.

you have to delete your friend from psn or they wont show up in the resent player list when you press select.
i do this all the time. it works great.

pros: it work every time (at least for me)
cons: got to do it every time you want to squad with that friend(s)

8. give your feedback.

How do I choose a lobby on PS3?

lobby= choosing a game mode like team death match, maximum death match, assault, developer choice, ect.

I'm glad this works for you. I have this problem too. But I'm not going through all of that. Crytek should just fix it.

plz don't post on my threads if your are going to ask me for help and not do it your wasting my time.
plz don't post on my threads if your are going (bad word) and moan about problems we already know. maybe you should go knock on their door and offer to fix it. they'll probable pay you to do it. 10/1 it's more complicated than you think. maybe its not even crytek maybe its psn, beings so many games have connections issues not just crysis. maybe its your firewall you should just fix it. should i continue with the maybes/possibilities ............?

doing that dose not sound good all.

so ty but no ty.

Whoa kid. Take it easy. And trust me I have optimized my end as far as possible.

Its cool that you found a work around. Maybe it will help Crytek get a lead on where to go for the actual fix. Good job.

BTW, I will post anywhere, anytime I feel like it. This is what feedback looks like.