I can't seem to find my wife, Aela the Huntress.... She Is always at my Whiterun home but since I got Hearthfire 2 weeks ago I can't find her anywhere. I never take her with me on quests, and I have looked at the companion place, and every house I own. I even looked at the place you get married. I would hate to restart this character because I lost my wife and can't remarry....

You haven't been fulfilling her needs.

Lol, but seriously its annoying that shes missing. I need her to be at my new home to feed the kids

Leave a steak outside your door. She's a werewolf. She'll want a piece of it.

She has to be at one of your houses.

Did you tell her you wanted to move?

Shes not at any of my houses, and I haven't told her to move