Or is the reason why only black gems are forbidden, that only those send the souls to Soul Cairn?
And do all the souls captured with a (black) soul gem go to Soul Cairn?
It appears that they do because you can find animal souls in the Soul Cairn. Souls only go to the Soul Cairn when they are trapped in a black soul gem.
Where do they go in normal Soul Gems? O.o
do the Souls even exist after using the soul gem?
That may be the creepiest realization I've ever had concerning the Elder Scrolls series...
i assume after the soul in the gem has been used they are just sent to the dreamsleeve
Pretty much how I see it. We know that in the Dreamsleeve 'souls' are stripped of their 'memories and emotions.' Those stay, the soul goes back.