Well I am using 3DS Max 2010 and tried both skyrim exporters and cant seem to get a good guide any wheres to get my changes in game to work just seems I cant find that one issue and when i import the meshes for some reason they get flatten out in importing so I Am working on resolving this issue as I Am just trying to import replacement meshes but I Am also having issues when I am just

I have tried both

http://skyrim.nexusmods.com/mods/5622//?

and

http://skyrim.nexusmods.com/mods/40209//?

and the same issues happens as it changes the names of all the fields and neither will supply a working nif when exporting even though the guides i have found said to change names of things and when i go to follow the tutorials the names and settings and they are already properly set correct so I have no idea what is going on and what i am doing wrong

What are your export settings? Take a screenshot of them.