"everyone" was a poor choice of words but he does mention the note ordering an attack on him in the OP and says they attacked him directly so that rules out the traveling justiciars or prisoner escorts.
What you've quoted is what I was asking him about as those are the conditions for his attack but it's no surprise that many like you or Aurora have experienced a bug where they attack without those conditions. Personally I've never been attacked without completing Diplomatic Immunity or rescuing Thorald but this is Skyrim we're talking about where it's been known to rain mammoths at times
Perhaps she doesn't like another powerful elf woman running around in Skyrim