I had an idea for a vampire character that would marry Harkon (with his wife living... elsewhere, he's as good as divorced, isn't he?
![:P](http://www.gamesas.com/images/smilie/tongue.png)
). If that even would be possible with mods/console commands, of course.
Then I remember that that marriage won't last long even if I side with the vampires in the DG questline.
Except for that, my characters have had a tendency to fall in love with unmarriable characters, but I don't think anyone has died. (Except for the occasional follower, but if it's a follower I plan to marry, I always reload.)