OK, now that I've READ the OP, I'm gonna say: the game described sounds like an interesting game, but it's a very different game from the one the devs decided to make, and it's not one I personally would play. They aren't minor things; every gameplay system would have to be different. And it is a tense and stressful game; I play to relax.
Still I'm sure there's an audience for it.
I guess the one thing I would agree with, and which COULD be improve without redesigning the game from the ground up, is the "impactful combat" thing. That's something the devs have talked for months about wanting to improve, and I gather it's better than it used to be, but I'd agree that it's still not quite there. That's just a matter of animations, sounds, and effects.