Anyone ever thought it was crazy that you couldn't take Morwen (an ex-soldier!) as a follower as well as marry her? If there was anyone "alive" that's most suited to Chadric it's Morwen, but I can't see it being very realistic to just do one quest for her then suddenly she's in love! For it to be realistic they really need to be partners and adventure together beforehand, then they can get a real liking for one another.
So, in short, is there a way to change her via the console so she can be recruited without mucking up her programming?