we all feel bad about our selves at times, its part of being human...

But what do you do to feel better about yourself when you are in this state of mind?



I grab a $20 out of my wallet, go downtown and grab a bunch of Value Burgers, then just walk around town giving any Homeless people I see a Burger to eat..

just in general makes me feel like im a little better of a person, and they always appreciate it.. one guy even tried to pay me back with the money he got in his little "handout cup", but i refused to take it and said "naah, its a gift, hope you enjoy your week, we've got some nice weather in the forecast"..



So what do you do to make yourself feel better about yourself when you feel worthless or just like a bad person in general..?

I don't really feel bad about myself, but taking walks in nature and absorbing my surroundings is good for my soul. Writing music and listening to jazz while drinking a mug of espresso also lightens up my mood and invigorates my spirit.

Edit: wait, OP asks if I do charitable, selfless and kind stuff to feel better?

I buy for random people on the internet that I may never meet in real life Steam games on their wishlist. I like your idea better though, buying a bunch of burgers for hungry people.

For me, cleaning.

I don't like doing it. I'm naturally the sort that'll leave the dirty dishes until I absolutely need a clean plate, don't like taking out the trash, etc. If I leave it be, my computer desk quickly becomes filled with wrappers and coffee cups. Plus my wife and I have a 3-year-old, two cats, and a puppy. Plus we work full time. So if I leave things for a day or two it quickly gets out of hand.

So once a week on my day off I put my son in daycare, get the house to myself. And I'll spend a few hours going through the place top to bottom, doing all the dishes, getting the clothes sorted, putting everything back in it's place, dusting vacuuming, etc. It's just nice to be able to sit down and relax in a clean house and not have all the housekeeping chores in the back of my head stressing me out.

My therapist says I have a tendency to view my house as a metaphor for my own state of being, they're kind of symbiotic. If I have a dirty house with a lot of things that need to get done, then I start feeling depressed and overwhelmed and stressed out. When I feel happy and relaxed, I also tend to have a nice clean house as a byproduct. For me, cleaning is just very theraqeutic (still don't like doing it though.)

When my son was first born, I took a year off to be a stay-at-home father (other things happened so that didn't end up being quite as long-term a proposition as we'd planned.) So I'm also kind of in the habit of keeping up with the house as just something I do, part of my responsibilities.

Watching TV, play video games.

Watch Gerry Springer (or some other reality TV show) and realize that I am better off because none of those people are in my life.

Spend time with a dog, they teach us about what is really important in life.

Do something nice for someone else, sometimes just making someone else smile gets me in a good mood.

What I do to feel better about myself?

I basically take a look at things that I've made in the past (Morrowind mods, Unreal stuff, etc) and ye'h...

~Edit~

Also, milkshakes.

I guess I usually try to do something that directly improves whatever I'm feeling bad about. If I can't, I used to throw myself into a project I've been working on and try to produce something cool that I'm proud of or jump on my bicycle and take a ride down the lake front until I'm worn out. These days I just try to make my kid laugh...something about that sound makes the little things bothering me seem less important.