Assuming your in vanila game, Lydia is not a good choice if your character is trying to sneak up. By default , she wears heavy armor & its too noisy for this. You will also find destrucition magic is difficult to level up in this game without training and associated perks. Have your tried conjuring up entities like flame attranoch or something? this can work sometimes ok, but don't rely on it too much. Better to spread skills over several categories imo.
At lower levels you need to be more careful when playing a pure mage. Don't charge in and attack multiple enemies and expect to survive. Get a spell to heal you companion so they can take more attention from the enemy.