The act of forgiveness is extremely difficult for those who feels that the emotion of anger overwhelms them. Anger is usually combined with the need for revenge,

or at least the need to find the right to prove to others that they were wrong.

It's hard to defeat the selfish part of us and to forgive.

But forgiveness is actually a sure path to release our anger.

Actually, i don't feel the need to make someone feel bad, or hurt him. I don't even bother with. If someone makes me feel bad, hurt my feelings, or even worse - makes bad things to me - i don't ever speak with him. Ever...

And actually i don't feel the need to. Who wants those people around. NO ONE - BELIEVE ME.

It's very simple my friend. However hard feelings hurting your soul. !!! That's the only thing that matters, therefore i try hard not to be like that. !!!

But believe me, that's very difficult. !!!

I'd probably return the favor.

I can forgive and forget many things but I can't forgive someone purposefully harming a loved one....I would seek vengeance.

I think it's a little of everything. Anger has a funny way of fueling your energy, of getting you motivated. If you use your grudge against someone toward achieving something you could later rub into their faces, you'd be surprised at how far you can go. That person who said you could never be a graphic artist? Let your anger and hatred guide you into being the best graphic artist you can be so you can prove that person wrong.

I suppose if you channel your grudge to better serve you in your endeavors, then that's good. If all that grudge is doing is eating away at you, destroying you, then that kind of grudge is bad.

Something minor, no.

Something major, I won't hold a grudge, but I'll punish them forever. For example, if someone stole something from me, I would never, ever, ever lend or give them anything ever again.

The rate at which I hold onto a grudge is directly proportionate to the severity of the damage inflicted on myself or my loved ones. The more damage inflicted, the less likely I am to forgive them. I can forgive a lot of [censored] done to myself, but I won't forget it either. I will not forgive or forget someone who severely harms my loved ones. I won't do anything about it if it will cause bigger problems. Or at least, I will try not to make it a bigger problem. Although, I have made some situations worse by interfering. It can be hard to control yourself around someone who caused harm to a loved one.

In general, I have few grudges. Few people mess with me or my loved ones severely enough to justify wasting my energy being pissed at them. Most of the few of those that I feel justified in holding a grudge against I no longer feel a need to. Punching their lights out does wonders for that. Certainly wouldn't recommend doing it if there is a better solution, which there often is. But not everyone is equipped to figure those out at every given time.