You just have to mess around with the settings. It's not difficult.

Everyone has different views on appearance and looks.

Maybe it will take some time at the beginning, but at the end you will archive some decent faces, i hope...lol

Here are again all character presets on Skyrim:

http://www.eurogamer.net/articles/2011-08-24-skyrim-playable-character-preset-pics-screenshot-gallery

Just choose something close to your liking, and then customize that character as much as possible.

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However, if you had the PC version, you could archive something like this:

http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=227161271

As Resident Within posted on this link:

http://www.eurogamer.net/articles/2011-08-24-skyrim-playable-character-preset-pics-screenshot-gallery

Go to Well-Proportioned Faces, and click on the image with the four faces, and choose the image 17 !!!!

That looks nice !!!! (What you thing ???)

I personally look at sword fighting as something that is learned among nobility, but maybe that's just me.

By your description I'd go with imperial, with speech, one handed, alteration, and perhaps one or two more magic skills being used (possibly destruction for ranged spells).