do you think two people are cable of

Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 4:32 pm

Yes it does. I think it's uncommon in western Europe nowadays, but there's plenty of places in the world where arranged marriages for economic or social benefits are the norm, like in much of south and west Asia and Africa.

But even if such marriages didn't exist any more in any place in the world, it wouldn't make a difference for the answer to the question in the OP: "do you think two people are cable of being in a relationship with both parties being equally aware that neither has feelings of love for each other?" People are obviously capable of that, as people have done just that for thousands of years.

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Josh Trembly
 
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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 1:36 pm

So, what you just described is friendship, but from some weird angle that distorts your view into thinking that it has something to do with romance. If you get along, and aren't attracted to one another, that's called friendship. Which is a type of relationship I guess.

If you're not friends with the person, then you just have an awkward roommate situation, but not that odd considering that 1 person = 1 bed is a fairly new concept outside of the wealthy.

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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 10:31 am

who said there was no attraction? Im talking about a romantic relationship with out the love.

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Laura Simmonds
 
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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 1:12 pm

I will say that without love, romantic may not be the best descriptor. sixual relationship might be more accurate.

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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 8:51 am

why would the relationship have to be exclusively sixual if love is not involved? are emotions required to be romantic?

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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 10:22 am

Generally, yes. The word "romance" is strongly associated with love. A sixual relationship can exist without love, but a romantic relationship involved love or the prospect of love. It's why we draw distinctions between girlfriends and friends-with-benefits.

Mostly though, it just prevents confusion.

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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 9:10 am


That's my thought as well. It's very possible to live with another person and not have any romantic feelings for them. It's called living with a friend or a roommate. If the both of you share similar interests then that's great! If not, but the other person isn't a complete a-hole, then that's fine too.

Why does love have to be in the equation whenever two people live together? Can't they just live together because it's easier on the commute and money and have nothing to do with romance or six?
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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 3:36 pm

Fear of a loveless marriage is probably going to prevent me from ever getting married. Honestly, the situation the OP describes sounds awful as a long-term thing.

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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 12:26 pm

What is love?

Respect? Arousal? Mix of both?

The way I see love... No, two people couldn't live with eachother without love. Without love, there's either apathy toward the other person's existence, or hatred. Love is respect, appreciation and understanding. You can do all of those three things to someone you aren't sleeping with, and those three things are

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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 4:12 pm

Been There, done that. Never again.

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Steven Hardman
 
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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 2:27 pm

Absolutely. See 99% of all Hollywood, D.C. and Royal Family weddings in history.

It's called money and power. It smooths out a lot of the rough edges when there isn't a mutual attraction because at least there is huge mutual benefit.

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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 3:41 pm

Take away the benefit, would it still work?

Most likely not. Which is the case in a regular situation.

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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 6:55 pm

well a regular situation would be based on feelings for each other that are outside of anything materialistic. If that isn't present I just can't see any reason to do so. Even regular couples who do it just for a basic mutual benefit of marriage and sharing the cost of residence, food, energy and such are doing it for those benefits. I do know of a couple who did just that; my speech prof from college had no interest in sixual relations or love, but married someone out of mutual convenience. They were close friends beforehand and had a shared plutonic history, but that's it.
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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 9:08 pm

I might of said caring instead.

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Roberto Gaeta
 
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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 11:25 pm

not sure, i've only ever loved one thing and that was a dog i had when i was 5.

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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 11:42 am

I've done this out of necessity and it isn't pretty or pleasant...I'm still roommates with the same woman even though we've ended the sixual relationship long ago and it's still not pretty.

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Post » Tue Oct 07, 2014 2:43 pm

I think people who enter into a relationship thinking that love is all they need are deluded and in for a rude awakening. People who get into a relationship for purely rational reasons are not going to be happy in the long run, but may get along better with each other during the course of it.

I think the key is, to recognize Pheromones for what they are, but only get involved with someone you can get along with irregardless of the pheromones. In other words, don't pick someone just because they are sixually attractive to you. Instead pick someone you get along with that you are also sixually attracted to. 95% of the relation exists outside of the bed, sleeping not withstanding, so get that part right and the other 5% will work out.

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