I love violence in games. Perhaps my favorite recent purchase is Nation Red and the entire point of that game is massacring thousands of zombies in the most gory ways imaginable. It is impossible to finish a session without the ground looking as though it had been clusterbombed with hundreds of cans of red paint. Most of my favorite games, going back to Doom and Mortal Kombat, have been showcases of the most extreme violence of their day.
On the other hand, the violence that I relish is over-the-top, excessive, absurdist to the extreme. Fragged characters in Quake explode into red gibs, characters in Chivalry spurt blood like something out of a Shaw Bros. film, killing certain enemies with a pistol in Doom results in someone exploding like a water balloon filled with Red Dye #6. There is no way to take this seriously, it's like thinking that Alice Cooper would lead kids down a path of satanism. It is the exact opposite of realism, it's pure absurdism.
On the other hand, take a look at Tomb Raider. Part of the hype of that game was the numerous realistic ways Lara Croft could be killed. I remember the quantity of videos that were released on Youtube after launch, slideshows of death. I'm not a sensitive man, but the concept left me a bit queasy. It was... pormographic, is probably the best way I can put it, awkward, like walking in on your favorite uncle pleasuring himself to a snuff film. This feeling was further enhanced by the fact that Lara Croft is arguably the most prominent female character in gaming, and has been the target of gamers' baser impulses, producing, for one, gaming's most legendary nvde patch.
From Tomb Raider to Call of Duty to Manhunt, there seems to be this movement towards creating "disturbing" violence, shocking violence, realistic violence, as opposed to the cartoonish, Kung-Fu-Movie violence of days past. Rather than the goofiness of Duke Nukem and Nation Red, here we see realism and grit, and I can't say it sits too well with me. It's violence without a sense of humor.
What are your thoughts on the matter?