Heh. I see my female SS as enjoying being able to play with boy's toys (NOT boy toys!) and kick ass and not bother to take names. Also, playing as a no-more-nice-girl with the black widow/femme fatale perk and twisting men around her pinky.
My male SS I see as being more concerned with what other people expect of/need from him. So he gets to run his rear parts off babysitting those MM settlements. On the plus side of the ledger, he has artillery. Oh wait, arty is useless. Nevermind then.
So, edge to the female SS.