The most annoying thing happened to me this week. I was at a bar with a couple of friends on wednesday night, and we met some girls there. We hung out with them throughout the night, and had a really good time. Now, one of the girls I found to be one of the most amazing people I had ever come across, and we pvssyd all the time, kissed each other on the cheek, held each other and so on. It was one of these moments when you realize that there is actually someone else out there with the same ideas, dreams and ambitions. We said goodbye later on and she told me we most definitely had to talk more. She told me to add her on facebook and so I did.

After chatting two nights in a row, she sais; you could come to my place saturday night, gonna watch a movie now but please text me, and she gave me her number. I texted her from my moms phone because mine had stopped working, and said I couldn't talk but that she would hear from me the next day. She replied; this could turn into a nice habit.

So comes saturday, and I ask if she'd like to go have something to eat with me. She said that it was a great idea, and asked me if my phone worked, I told her my number, and thats when she stopped writing. I text her, she doesn't answer for the entire day. She logs on to facebook, i write to her: haha if you don't want to see me I totally respect that, sorry if you felt I was beeing too forward. She doesn't answer.

So what the f'ck is this? Really feels like she appreciated the attention and that's it... Should I forget about her, although she was one of the most lovely girls I ever met?

Dude. She doesn't talk to you for a day and you [censored] yourself? I think you managed to freak her out really well. You barely know her and you are already becoming clingy, girls hate that. Get your [censored] together son.

If she asks you why you sent her the (clingy) message on facebook, just say you were drunk. It's a good excuse for the first time.

Don't become to obsessive about that - it's only one day. Who knows what might have suddenly plopped up that might hinder her will to talk to you on this day. You only just met, she might not want to bother you when not in the mood. Just wait for an answer for one or two days. ^_^

And you don't think it's [censored] bad behaviour to make plans for a saturday night and not even have the decency to actually call it off? I'm not gonna pursue this, I just wanna know what happened. She's the one that's been flirting and she's the one who wanted to see me? I'm so confused.

People have lives, and sometimes stuff pops up out of nowhere. She can't control that. Take a deep breath a can of your favorite beer, and chill for the rest of the day.

But do you think I'm [censored] because of acting clingy? It wasn't my intention, I was just trying to understand. Maybe I shouldn't write to her again.

Don't text her or message her all the time if she doesn't respond. It looks like your a desperate hoser.

If she logged on Facebook and saw your message and didn't respond, she sounds like a [censored]. Just ditch her.

To be honest if someone changed plans and didn't let me know I'd be majorly pissed off.

No no no. Like I said, play the "I was a little hammered" card. It can get you out of almost anything the first time I don't think you did anything too too bad.

I have no idea what you actually wrote to her, and I have no idea whats really going on between you two, so really my opinion means nothing.

Yeah, I mean, it's not like my world falls apart because she doesn't want to see me, but I feel kinda angry about the fact that in trying to understand why, I now seem clingy too. To hell with her

At least I didn't tell you I had ditched you to go out with your sister.... ooops.

Well, like I said, the clingy part was only my observation of your observation of her observational of what's really happening. Only you and her know whats really going on, us forumites only get one side of the story, so our judgments are usually wrong. You may be acting clingy, you may not. We can't tell that unless you give us your facebook account, home address, and Social Security number.

You must like her alot. I know what you feel. But rememeber it's only a day. Crap happens. Family got sick, problems at work, what ever. You seem to be to needy or clingy. Yes it's only human nature to act like this when you like someone. But you have to keep those feelings in control.

If you made a note on her facebook, and she logged on and didn't reply, then, she not that interested in you. Maybe you freaked her out. I would strongly suggest not using the drunk card. I hate people who lie. If an explanation is needed, admit the truth, that you like her alot, and you were not thinking clearly, and you fracked up.

Wait a few days, hell wait a week. This indeed is the generation of instant gratification. Yes you have to wait. Yes you need to be patient. No you can't have everything now. No you casn't have your answers now. People have lives. Everyones life dosn't revolve around you. So she made plans and broke them. Big deal. You have never done it? You have never ever said one thing, and couldn't do it? It's not the end of the road.

I hate to say this, but maybe we should warn her from you. I have this problem where this boy will not stop calling my daughter. I told him never to call again because he is too needy or clingy. Lay off. Keep cool. Say you are sorry in a few days. That is 3 or 4 days. I hate how people have to text, or use Facebook for relationships now. Call her on Thursday (5 days from now) and call her once. If she dosen't answer, leave a message if you can. Say sorry, explain you never felt like this before and this wasn't you. Yeah you fracked up, but learn from it.

If she dosen't call you back, then you have your answer. Maybe something happened and she dosen't want you around. She may like you, but is afraid that you may not like her, what ever happened. So be patiend. She may not call till 2 weeks later. If you do not hear from her in a month, then she is not interested in you.

Remember, you need to be patiend. You need to wait. You fracked up, no be quiet.


Good luck and hope all works out for you.

Man that really svcks, I normally would just say f*** her but I can understand how much it svcks to meet someone so similar to you that you really click with then this [censored] happens. You probably shouldn't have sent that fb message but whatever, don't text or talk to her for awhile and see what happens and if she doesn't try to contact you then you've got an answer.

Imo, it would be best if you waited a while if someone doesnt get back to you asap. Something could have poped up for real, and you dont wanna give the impression that you're desperate. Now that you facebook msged her i'd wait a few days before trying to contact her again (3 days maybe) if she doesnt get back to you.

self control man! self control! :bonk:

You know, starting a thread and bypassing the autocensor in the first post is not a good idea. I could edit or give you a warning but think maybe closing the thread will be enough of a lesson.

And everyone else in the thread seems to be using too much swearing regardless of using the autocensor properly.