Mod settings are saved in your save file. If you want to do a reset (clean save), unload your mods, reload your save, save game, quit and reload with your mods active. Then all settings will be restored to default.
Though I dont quite understand what you mean with the 'menu instantly closes'? So you open up the FWE main menu and then it closes instantly? That can't really happen, since it cant possibly close without you clicking an option.
Regarding your save, you might want to try masterupdating your mod list. Or you might want to check if the save problem happens everywhere or only in a certain area.