So... Firstly, I'm currently living with my sister and I am a picky eater. What happened is we went to the store a while ago, getting things which we were low on. I was low on my graqe jammer juice, with only three left at the time. However, the store didn't had them when we went. They were out apparently. So my sister wanted to compromise and get me something else, even though I told her that I can wait until another day (which I ended up doing just that and now I ran out once again today). She didn't listen to my recommendation though and ended up getting some sort of jug of this other graqe juice brand. I told her "Yes, I'm willing to try it but I don't want to. I prefer sticking to what I know I like." Basically, I'll try it if she gets it but if I don't like it, it's not my problem since I never asked her to get it. She got it for her own reasons, not mine.

So yes, she did got it. I did tried it and I don't like it at all. Too sweet and leaves a nasty after taste that makes my eyes clench. Now that I'm out once again of jammers, which she got later, she told me that she will not get anymore until I drink that jug. Meaning, I'll either have to drink liquids I don't like or just eat ice cream that I do like to get my 'liquids' until she finally listened... In my mind, she has no right to make me drink the jug because I told her that I didn't want it and it was her doing that it is now in the fridge, not mine. Meaning, she has to do something with it, not me.

And that's kinda my question... Is this right for me to think like this or is it wrong that I am thinking like this? Should the jug be my responsibility to drink? I'm asking because of my autism. I know I look at things differently and sometimes I might just accidentally be in the wrong and just wish to know.

If you didn't ask your sister to get the different brand and you really don't like it you shouldn't really be expected to drink it in my opinion. Just politely mention this to your sister and go back to the brand you like and put it down as a misunderstanding and hopefully all should be well and go back to normal.

I think it depends on if you are living in your sister's home. If so, than she makes the rules. I had to live with the in laws for years, and I hated living by their rules, but I had no choice.

Drink water, problem solved.

Okay, the problem is deeper than that. You are afraid of upsetting her if you don't like the other juice? Or maybe afraid of testing her patience because you rather not do that? Anyway, I'd just get water and everybody is (somewhat) happy as the issue is avoided.

I think that she's being incredibly stupid and that she's definitely in the wrong, but I have to agree with fantasyjunkie; she does indeed make the rules.

The only direct way to deal with this problem is to try to convince her to change her mind, but with autism I understand how that could be very difficult. Also, some people are just not reasonable; you may just end up having to deal with it, I'm afraid.

Seems to me that it's your sister who spend a lot of time and money to feed you, correct? Then I think you should drink the jug, sometimes [censored] happens, and it would be a waste to throw it away. Don't be thankless, just make sure to politely mention to her that you didn't like it and don't want her to buy it for you again.

EDIT: I also agree with OldtimeKiller.

This is the way I see it too. It also sounds like she spent her own money. If so, then she gets to decide what she buys.

If you want something different then I believe you should earn the money to buy it yourself.

I'm surprised she didn't tell you to just drink water. Sounds like she tried to compromise when you were unable to get the brand you enjoy, and thus she doesn't want the money she spent on juice to just be thrown out the window.

Honestly OP, sounds more like you're just being ungrateful here. Like Oldtimer said, she could have told you to go drink water or svck it up till it's in stock and you may not have asked her to buy the alternative brand, but she still went out of her way to try and take care of you by meeting your wants half-way and all you're thinking about here is "But it's not what I like!" like a stubborn child and acting like she's forcing you to drink toilet water. Sure, it might not be your preferred brand, but she at least tried to take care of you by doing the best she could given the circumstances. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but it's true. You act like she's trying to torture you when you could easily find ways to make it work. If it's too sweet, delude it with a little water or take small sips. Not everyone has family willing to try and make that compromise for you by buying an alternative to at least hold you over.

I think the problem you misunderstand is that I specifically told her to NOT get it when we were at the store. I specifically said that because I knew I'll be fine otherwise (which was true). She didn't listen to me.

It's like if we went to a candy store and they didn't have the candy bar you wanted. So I ask you "Ya want another?" and you reply "Nah. I'll be fine." However, I still ended up getting you another candy bar anyways and now you are either have to accept or decline, saying "Thanks for the idea, but I said I'll be fine."

To me, there's a difference between doing some nice for someone when they don't know it and doing something nice for someone AFTER them telling you not to.

Ah... I must concede those points actually...

while you may have been kinda blunt with how you wrote it, i agree with this post

I think she got it for you anyways because she figured you'd realize that some random juice is better than no juice (which it is.)

She's clearly trying to help you. Just explain the juice svcks, and to avoid that brand in the future.

And really... It's just juice.

I tend to side with those who feel that if your sister provides food and lodging you are compelled to abide by her rules and quirks...up to a point. This isn't a one-way street, however, in that she comes across in your telling as needlessly insensitive to your desires. Even so you must tread carefully. (I would not want to be in your situation.)

I got everything you said, but you're trying to justify selfishness with "I didn't ask for this, not my problem." That's my beef with this whole situation. You told your sister not to buy it, sure, that's fine. But what you fail to seem to be overlooking is your own unhappiness that it's not your preferred brand of juice and completely ignoring the fact your sister didn't HAVE to buy you that juice and purely did it in order to do something nice for you as a sibling and that's what bothers me. My siblings wouldn't do that for me. Hell, if my sister or brother got me something I didn't like, I'd still drink it all because sure, it svcks, but it was the thought that counts and I appreciate the effort they went to for me. You should do the same too. It svcks not getting what you like, but your original post makes it out like she bought that juice in blatant disregard for you or your feelings when it's quite clearly the opposite, Jusey. It was a loving act of kindness and all you can take from it is "But this isn't MY brand!". You don't know how good you have it if your biggest problem is your sister was so nice she bought you a juice she wasn't sure you'd like purely to hold you over until the store restocked it. You didn't ask her to buy it for you, true, but she bought it for you and is expecting nothing from you in return for it because she wanted to help you out. THAT is what my post comes off mildly pissed about it. Like I said, I know it's incredibly blunt to just say it so flat out, but your blatant tone of unappreciative attitude in the OP of the gesture behind your sister's actions just really really bothers me because none of my siblings would EVER do something that nice for me but I'd sure as hell appreciate it if they did buy me something they were unsure I'd like.

I honestly hate my current situation and can't wait for my appointment with these one people.

Honestly, I'm not a fan of juice at all and the only reason why I'm drinking the only kind I do like is because my sister doesn't want to get soda pop for me. (The liquid which I prefer drinking).

To me, I'm fine with not drinking this brand myself and instead using the ice cream that I like (pistachio specifically mmm) and just drink milkshakes until further notice. It's just, I feel forcing me to drink something that I specifically said that I don't want in the first place is going a bit too far on her side. It's not like I'm a child and just being a brat. No. I'm an advlt and specifically being polite with her that I don't like it and will not drink it.

I know it's an act of kindness and already thanked her for doing it in the first place. It's nice that she was thinking of me. However, I shouldn't be forced to eat, drink, or in general use something that I do not like at all. Especially something that makes me feel sick and want to throw up... And trust me, I'm not being selfish. I'm not trying to justify selfishness. It's just, to me, I feel I shouldn't be the one responsible for it.

Also, blatant tone of unappreciative? Again, I did appreciate the thought. I'm just refusing the end product. Simple as that. I definably didn't had a tone of unappreciative. If you think I did, then you must've misread my tone.

I do strongly agree. I do abide to a lot of her rules, quirks, etc. However, I will only do so up to a point. I feel forcing me to drink something that she bought on her own is going too far, in my eyes. Similar to forcing me to watch a movie or tv show with her that I have no wish of watching at all. It's just not something I like, I didn't ask for it, and even recommended that I don't want to. So why force me (or attempt to force me)?

Having lived with my sister for about a week and a half because I had to relocate for a new job, not having the right juice (or any food, for that matter) would have been the least of my problems. I was happy enough to have oatmeal for breakfast and frozen chicken for dinner until I managed to find my own place (which I did far more quickly than most people should probably have to).

Frankly, if your sister is letting you live with her and there isn't any pressure from being in the same house/apartment, I would be happy enough with that alone. Anything more than that is a luxury, and something you should probably shouldn't make an issue about (because it very well may not last).

Yeah, honestly if you were living with me you'd be on water if you didn't like what I bought.

not to mention water is far healthier for you..

@OP, if you don't like it, you can either svck it up and drink it, get in a pointless argument, or get a job so you can buy your own juice..

actually, yeah, that is my best sugestion for you, find a job and then you can buy and eat/drink whatever you want

I'm already planning on getting a job or something. That what the appointment I mention above is about. Due to my five disorders and fear of driving, I need help to find a job that I won't get fired from within the first week.

Anything that makes me gag or want to throw up I cannot consider as a luxury.

OP, I understand what you are getting at. You didn't ask for the juice and she got it for you anyway, and it's not fair of her to expect you to finish it. It's not an ideal situation but it's also honestly just juice. I would explain to her your point of view (clearly) and ask (nicely) that she not do it again. If this is the first time it has happened she may be persuaded by having an advlt conversation, otherwise you will just have to deal with it. Ultimately it is her money, if she keeps doing it just don't get juice again. Don't make mountains out of mole hills.

Given that we only know your side of the story it's hard for me to say if she is clearly in the wrong, I feel like you may not have been as clear with your communication as you think.

pick your battles my friend, do you really think its worth stressing out your sister with this argument simply over "I don't like this brand of juice"?

It'd be far easier to just drink the juice and tell her that you didn't like it. Sure it might not taste nice, but that's a small price to pay compared to some big argument developing because of some bottle of juice.

That and the fact that wastage is really, really bad.

Hmmm, it is normal for our families to do things thinking they are doing right to us. Don't bother with it. I know it svcks but, hey, that's life

As I said earlier it just sounds like a simple misunderstanding. I would suggest you sit down with your sister and have a chat about it, I'm sure she meant well and wasn't trying to be mean or anything. Good luck with the job appointment, hope things work out ok for you.