Ok yes i realize im posting this on the internet, on a game forum, full of socially awkward nerds (such as myself which would be the reason im asking here) but its 12am and no one else is awake to talk to. this is gonna be a long one =p

To start off, 2 days ago i went over to my closest friends house, we were there for a few hours then his girlfriend came over, apparently he and she have been having problems for some time, and long story short, girlfriend makes advances towards me and i reciprocate, the entire time going "oh [censored] this is trouble' and yet i kept going. so i leave my friends house very very early morning, and his girlfriend who will now be referred to simply as woman, asks for a ride home, halfway there she asks me to pull over, and basically spills her heart to me, mind you we had only met that night, but she felt a very deep connection to me and i to her, yes i know what your thinking but no im not some testosterone driven teenager, im a testosterone driven 20 year old =P

Continuing the story, after our long talk, we decided to go for it and from a relationship, and well, went a bit quicker than i ever have on a first date if you know what i mean, skip ahead to today, me and woman meet up again, talk, have fun, and ruffle the sack so to speak, again mind you, she wanted to talk to my friend about their relationship but was not able to up to this point, so i kind of feel like a bastard for doing this without talking to him first. After we have another talk where she tells me she still loves my best friend, but just cant see herself romantic with him anymore, but apparently is a tad bit insane about me 0_o..so moving on she calls me after i take her home, informed me she talked to best friend, and now she wants to date us both at the same time, yet has not told best friend what happened between us but it was implied that he knows what is going on.

now you may be asking yourself at this point "who the hell are you,and why are you wearing my underpants on your head", to answer your question, because i feel like a superhero..but that is besides the point i suppose, i honestly do not know if i should even talk to my friend about this, what to say to him if i do, and if i should even continue this relationship (which i really want to do as woman is basically everything i am looking for)

what advice would the wise, nerdy, and slightly unhygienic community have to offer this confused man?

Whether or not you decide to tell your friend about "woman" depends on whether or not you intend to..."see" "woman" again.
If she's wanting to date YOU and HIM at the same time? Go for it bro don't get into that, it's just a mess waiting to happen. She sounds like a vixen to me, and she is probably going to destroy the friendship you have with him.

In the immortal words of pretty much everyone anywhere ever:

Don't do it!

ok, now heres another question, what if best friend is ok with it

I wouldn't touch her with a 10 foot pole ( or should that be MY 10 foot pole? :hubbahubba: :dead: ) Girl confesses love the first time she meets you, and in the process cheats on her boyfriend with his friend. Sounds like a pretty classy broad...

I would walk slowly away for a couple steps, then turn and run.

I agree with the above. You need to weigh what has more worth to you: your friendship or a relationship with the woman. And you can't expect your friend to understand. That is out of the question. You are now at the point of choosing. There is no advice that we can give you that you can't come up with yourself. This kind of this is all relative.

EDIT: Really there's no reason to just automatically disregarding giving her a chance. Especially if your friend is okay with it. The only thing you have to lose is losing the chance to have a beautiful relationship.

I can almost garuntee that your friend will not be okay with this. Its also a safe bet that when he does find out he is gonna be very very very mad at you and that he won't be your friend for very much longer. IMHO you [censored] up. You did something incredibly disrespectful. If I were your friend I would be lookin to hurt you. Just a heads up.

The entire first post can be summarized by the following:

"I betrayed my friend by having six with, and forming a relationship with, his girlfriend. Do I tell him?"

To that question I say yes, you should tell him, because if you don't, than the girlfriend you took from him will when she decides to break up with him.

Now I know you said she made the advances, but you're the one who accepted them. Unless she forced you to have six with her at gunpoint, this isn't just her fault, it's yours too. And that's likely how your friend will see it.

But if he's okay with it, then I say dump her. Even if he isn't, dump her. Why, you ask? Because she made advances on you while she had a boyfriend, and you can bet your ass that she'll do it again after she gets tired of you.

Edit: Typos

ok i know what i need to do now, just needed some confirmation.

and yes just to clarify, i was going oh [censored] oh [censored] what i am i doing the entire time =P

And that makes it any better?

not at all

just one more question, due to work i have no idea when ill be able to go to him, should i just do it over the phone and get it over with or wait till i can talk in person

I would say its more of an in person thing.

In person. You already dikeed him over. Don't make him feel like an undulating taint over the phone.

So what are you deciding? Hell, I'd go for it. You're 20. Might as well take a risk.

I say keep the girl 'cause you more than likely already lost the friend. Just watch out for this kind of thing happening to you 'cause you know she ain't trustworthy.

gah i duno, i do kinda want to continue it but..man im a bastard at the moment aren't i

You should definitely do it in person, probably relatively close to a hospital if you know what I mean.

No, no, no.
For god's sake no.
Even I know that is a terrible idea. You ever notice how pissed people get when someone breaks up with them over the phone? This is just as bad.
If you're going to drop a bombshell like the one you mentioned above, you do it in person or not at all.
I can tell you right now that I, personally, would find you and break your legs if you didn't have the courage to tell me something like that to my face.

That may have come across as a little harsh, I know, but the point stands.

Yes, yes you are. But the damage is done.

It is what it is. You're a bastard if you keep her and you're a bastard if you don't. Stay with her and just be sure not to completely let your guard down. You must keep in mind the manner in which you two got together.

yeha, thanks for the advice everyone, imma go find a suit of platemail before i go talk to my friend

I really want to stress that you should treat this relationship as an entirely temporary, and probably short-lived, thing. If she was willing to cheat on her boyfriend with you THE VERY FIRST DAY she met you, then she's very likely to cheat on you too, and relatively soon. Come to think of it, if the girl is this promiscuous you may want to get tested for STDs.

Id wish you luck but IMO you deserve whatever he throws at ya.


agreed

actually she was tested within the last 6 months, had proof of it and 100% insisted that i use protection, as well she is on "the pill" so yeah =P and yeah i realize its probably temporary, ill update you guys on what happens after i talk to my friend.

Wait... why was she carrying around proof that she was tested for STD's around with her?

On second thought, I don't think I want to know.