Relationship thread : Othor Games

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 10:27 am

I am floating on cloud nine right now. I can't get one of my best friends off my mind. I've known her for about five years now, and we've been friends the whole time. I just spent a few hours just chatting with her today. I just can't stop thinking about her. She is so nice and sweet. Call me crazy, but at this moment in time I feel like I would do anything for her.

Should I just ask her out? I really want to, but if she says no it could be the end of our friendship. Though she could say yes, too. What should I do? I've never felt so happy but kind of weird before.

EDIT: Typo

» Mon Dec 27, 2010 9:59 pm

Even if she does say no, you could still be friends.

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 8:31 am

sure why not?

if your that crazy about her, then its worth a try

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 1:58 am

Even if she does say no, you could still be friends.

sure why not?

if your that crazy about her, then its worth a try

I'm not sure though. I get nervous just thinking about it, lol.

» Mon Dec 27, 2010 8:34 pm

I'm not sure though. I get nervous just thinking about it, lol.

That's natural, jitters are pretty normal. I speak from personal experience involving romantic feelings towards close friends.

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 2:11 am

Just ask her out

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» Tue Dec 28, 2010 3:45 am

I'm not sure though. I get nervous just thinking about it, lol.

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» Tue Dec 28, 2010 11:09 am

Should I just ask her out? I really want to, but if she says no it could be the end of our friendship. Though she could say yes, too. What should I do? I've never felt so happy but kind of weird before.

You need to ask yourself, is the chance that she says yes enough to get you to risk ending a 5 year friendship? Is it really worth it? Surely this friendship has stayed a friendship for 5 years for a good reason. Has she ever shown any sings of liking you more than a friend?

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 9:16 am

Has she ever shown any sings of liking you more than a friend?

Well she did say that she really enjoys talking to me, and that she would love to travel around the world with me.

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 7:58 am

Well she did say that she really enjoys talking to me, and that she would love to travel around the world with me.

Well, that could kinda be taken either way, IMO.

Honestly, it's your call. If you really have reason to believe she likes you in the way you like her, and you're willing to risk ending the friendship if she doesn't, then go for it.

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 8:52 am

I'm still not sure. I really don't want to risk ruining such a good friendship.

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 5:10 am

Well she did say that she really enjoys talking to me, and that she would love to travel around the world with me.

Then there's a chance, no matter how minuscule.

» Mon Dec 27, 2010 10:28 pm

I'm not sure though. I get nervous just thinking about it, lol.

Just ask her out. Confidence is sixy, she likes you, and you guys are already friends.

» Mon Dec 27, 2010 10:39 pm

I've had this happen before, but it was a relatively new friendship. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yc5OyXmHD0w

It didn't work out, but we're still friends. Of course, I don't know this person and they may act differently. I doubt it'll be a sudden "OH MY GOD! NEVER TALK TO ME AGAIN!"

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 7:14 am

But what if she would say yes? And then the relationship would happen to fail?

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 12:48 am

I'm still not sure. I really don't want to risk ruining such a good friendship.

And you shouldn't. She enjoys talking to you, not because she's romantically interested in you, but because you've been her friend for 5 years. She wants to travel with you because, again, you're such a good friend. You will meet thousands upon thousands of girls in your life. Which do you think is more possible, being able to successfully ask one of them out, or being able to successfully cultivate a relationship with them that lasts 5 long years? This is a good relationship you have with this girl and my opinion is that it would be very dumb to risk ruining the relationship like this.

» Mon Dec 27, 2010 9:38 pm

But what if she would say yes? And then the relationship would happen to fail?

What if you don't do anything, then find out, months later, that she actually liked you, and you missed the opportunity at your one perfect relationship?

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 7:36 am

But what if she would say yes? And then the relationship would happen to fail?

It depends. If you're both cool about it you could probably still be friends, although it may be a bit awkward. But if it's a hard break up, I wouldn't expect to be friends with her anymore, at least not for a while.

» Mon Dec 27, 2010 10:54 pm

But what if she would say yes? And then the relationship would happen to fail?

If she's a good a friend as you say she is, then there shouldn't be a problem. Again, I don't know this person, or you, for that matter, but you would think you would just end up being just friends again.

Choice is up to you. I'm not saying you should or shouldn't do it.

» Mon Dec 27, 2010 10:05 pm

What if you don't do anything, then find out, months later, that she actually liked you, and you missed the opportunity at your one perfect relationship?

Months later? You mean a few months added onto the already 60+ months they've known each other? If he hasn't found out by now he isn't going to find out period.

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 6:47 am

Months later? You mean a few months added onto the already 60+ months they've known each other? If he hasn't found out by now he isn't going to find out period.

Not really. He's known her for the past five years as well and he suddenly has feelings.

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 1:32 am

Months later? You mean a few months added onto the already 60+ months they've known each other? If he hasn't found out by now he isn't going to find out period.

Well we did have a crush on each other a few years back, we had already been friends for two years. We didn't date or anything, though, and the feelings just became ones of friendship. But we did both admit to liking each other. But again, that was three years ago that we liked each other.

But still, I think I agree Antibody. I don't think I want to risk ruining our friendship.

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 12:34 am

cool down a titch before you make a decision on anything.

» Mon Dec 27, 2010 9:04 pm

Months later? You mean a few months added onto the already 60+ months they've known each other?

Good point.

» Tue Dec 28, 2010 9:18 am

I would wait a few weeks before making your decision, just because it seems like you're flooded with emotions. I personally, would say unless its a mutual relationship thing (like you kiss or something) don't, just because really good friends are so rare to meet. I just completely ruined my friendship with one of my really good friends of about 2 years for a really similar reason to this. If you're just casual friends (but it sounds like you're not) then i would say go for it, but is it really worth risking your deep friendship for? The other thing is, wouldn't it be a little awkward to go out with someone you've known that way for so long?