I suppose I am what Renee would call 'over imaginative'. I had an invisible friend when I was 6. Over half a century later, I still do. Lol. As you know, I tend to RP from the perspective of traveling with my character as a companion or mentor or 'invisible friend' to my character. We chat constantly while playing, although the other NPCs can't hear me, for I am inside my character's head. Sounds like you are familiar with that concept, as well as the idea that many RP'ers use of 'becoming' their characater. Hmm. . . a couple things that I believe help me:
- Before seriously RPing the game, I played like many normal players do. Uber characater that did everything in the game and mastered it all. This was a good thing, because I am very comfortable with what is in the game. If my charater wrinkles her nose at different skills or quests, I don't mind a bit because I have 'been there, done that' with other characters. In a way, that frees me to simply support what she wants to do and let her live her life in Tamriel.
- Maintaining a detailed journal has helped greatly. Most of the NPCs that are important to my character have complete and fully developed life histories and personalities. In her world, these NPCs do not just talk about mud crabs. She can take a quest and turn it into a major production with very elaborate background and reasons why it makes sense (or not) for her to do it. In fact, she can readily create her own 'quests'. The journal helps fill in the gaps between what I see in the game, and what we see through the eyes of my character.
For example, this is what I might see: http://i668.photobucket.com/albums/vv43/Acadian6/Buffy%20I/ScreenShot258.jpg
Whereas, this is how things look through the eyes of my character: http://i668.photobucket.com/albums/vv43/Acadian6/horse-beach.jpg
Now, that all said, it is most certainly not everyone's cup of tea. The game offers plenty to see and do and can be enjoyed on many levels with or without roleplaying. Don't feel bad if it doesn't work out.