Thanks for all the replies! I think part of my problem with FO4 is all those settlement attacks that make me feel like I have to drop everything I'm doing and go save'em. Previous FO and TES games didn't have time sensitive missions so I could just take my time and explore. Just add those missions to the list of things to do and continue what I'm working on. Now every time I try to explore I get interrupted. I know I could ignore those attacks, but no, I can't! And I tend to fast travel a lot more because the attack is on the other side of the map.
I'm looking forward to the CK and hope someone will publish a mod to eliminate those settlement attacks or eliminate the timer.