I'm single and don't seem to care... : Othor Games

» Mon Apr 11, 2011 9:02 pm

Some of the best times in my life happened to occur when I was single. Likewise, many more memorable ones occured while in romantic relationships.
SInce happiness should come from within, and not someone else, I say keep on enjoying, achieving, and when the romantic stuff happens, it happens.
Nothing wrong with being single, nothing wrong with being involved. States of being.

» Tue Apr 12, 2011 8:57 am

You sound fine to me - I think it's weirder to be a person who needs to be in a relationship all the time, and every relationship/crush is with "the one", and it's more intense than the last. That type of attitude just doesn't seem healthy to me.

I agree with this person. (sorry don't know if you are boy or girl

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Nothing wrong in being single. Here is my words of wisdom when someone was so disheartend when trying to find love.

Trying to find True Love, is impossible. You will never find it. What you have to do is let love find you. So stop looking for it. Be single. Do what you do for fun. Sew your wild oats sort to speak if you need to. Go dancing, gaming, or what ever you do for fun. When you stop looking for Love that is when Love will smack you right side of the head. Stop looking for love. Once you stop looking for Love, it can be 2 weeks, 2 months or 2 years, or more, but Love will find you.

That is what I did. I gave up on looking for love and when I least exepected it, it found me. Been with her for over 12 years now. Yes things gets rocky but we still together.

So it's perfectly natural for you to be single and not be interested in looking for a relationship. There are millions of people who don't care for a relationship. You are not alone and perfectly normal. Just live you life on how you would like to and enjoy being single. Who knows, you may want to be single for the rest of your life. Then again you may want to be married. Thing is, it will happen naturally.

All I can say is, Never say NEVER. I havd a few girls tell me, they would never fall in love or get marriend and have children. They said I was young (well back then I was young LOL) and I didn't know anything how the world works. Guess what. They are married now. All of them. They found their love, and 2 of them had kids. They stopped looking for love, dating and all that crap and found true love and are married now.

So enjoy your freedom while you have it, because anytime now, you may find true love and be marriend then LOL.

» Mon Apr 11, 2011 7:19 pm

Disregard women. Acquire currency.

» Tue Apr 12, 2011 5:36 am

I'm in a committed relationship with my two hands and my box of toys.

Polyamory FTW!

Mr. Socks, what exactly do your toys get out of this "relationship"?

» Mon Apr 11, 2011 9:37 pm

Disregard women. Acquire currency.

And once you have succeeded in that the women will come without any further effort whatsoever.

» Tue Apr 12, 2011 4:11 am

you care enough to think about it and ask about it still, so i think that is a great indication you care about relationships. and all this 'not caring' might just be some form of you sub-consciously shutting out the potential stressor; still baffled by the "so does she like me or not or where we at now?" that's hanging up there because you told her you liked her but she did not say anything about that, yet, and this 'not caring' is just your sub-conscious way making it so that you don't have to deal with it because you don't know what to make of it yet.

» Mon Apr 11, 2011 11:48 pm

I wouldn't say you're alone. Now, you're certainly too young to be in that "relationships are a waste of time, they're pointless and go nowhere" old man phase, but I completely get you. I've just gotten sick of the drama and backstabbing involved with teenage relationships. I lost one of my best friends after my last breakup, as we both pretty much despise each other now. It's a shame what relationships can do to you.

If you're happy with your current "social stance" then I don't see any reason to rock the boat, because let me tell you, you do not want to screw up a friendship if you're that close to her. I've lose almost all interest lately in serious relationships; both dudes and women are just too immature and have too low of an attention span for serious relationships at a young age, imo. But if you think you have a chance of her being in a relationship with her, I assure you you will be happy.

advlt relationships aren't any better.

» Tue Apr 12, 2011 12:34 am

I've never been in a relationship and I don't plan to yet. I've seen fights,hurt, cheating and mistrust in relationships. Yeah, I reckon I'm too young for relationships.

Same here. Except I don't consider myself too young.

» Mon Apr 11, 2011 9:40 pm

*Abridged* It's been months since I dated a girl. What is wrong with me?

Get back to me when you get to years.

» Tue Apr 12, 2011 7:15 am

you care enough to think about it and ask about it still, so i think that is a great indication you care about relationships. and all this 'not caring' might just be some form of you sub-consciously shutting out the potential stressor; still baffled by the "so does she like me or not or where we at now?" that's hanging up there because you told her you liked her but she did not say anything about that, yet, and this 'not caring' is just your sub-conscious way making it so that you don't have to deal with it because you don't know what to make of it yet.

That is what I thought at first as well, but it looks like he has his head on straight and explained his situation pretty thoughaly. So that tells me he gave it great thought. I think what bothers him, is that he actually doesn't care and that is what worries him, because in all these movies, and TV shows and magazines and music videos, make you feel that you need to be in a releationship.

You want TV, just look at Charlie Harper. Then again he may not be a good example :hubbahubba: . He is perfectly happy being single and in no relationship. Eventually he found love. Not sure if he still has it or not. But there is nothing wrong, in not being in a relationship. Nothing wrong in not dating, or even having six.

The OP is perfectly normal. A bit young to do so, but he seems mature enough.

You are perfectly fine.

» Tue Apr 12, 2011 3:45 am

Similar story... up to a point lol.

I dated a girl... then another and then another... until I realized I was dating people just to say I was in a relationship. In 7th Grade. Then I smartened up and got over this freaky romance stuff. Then I found out, or more like admitted to myself I was gay. And, if your straight in high school, you'll pretty much fit into all of those stereotypical roles, of either a nerd who doesn't get any, a pot-head who gets too much, the jock who gets laid, or the jock who says he gets laid and so on and so forth.

but being gay is tough, because people stare at you if you show any intimacy with a BF. (Or GF). It is hard to be open about your feelings when those around you will mock or debase you for it. I mean, I like someone a lot, but if I asked him out and he said he wasn't gay, that could be embarrassing, and he might tell people I didn't want to know, that i am gay. Its just frustrating.

But on top of that, I have astrange haughty sense of superiority over others sometimes... and I get annoyed at petty relationships. Because, mostly, at how shallow they really are. People don't really love each other, they just want to look popular or whatever, or want six. Believe me when I say whirlwind relationships are nothing compared to the 5 second flings we suffer at my school. People have NO dignity.

Anyways my 2 cents.

I saw in a thread before something similar someone suggested leaving a not in thier locker saying "wear x tomorrow if your gay" that could work, or they could just be curious to find out who likes them :shrug:
I went to a catholic school, apparently one gorl kissed another (rumor) no one cared. And then just before I left, 2 girls decided to go out, number of people who cared 0. I dont see why people would have an issue. Then again your a different culture, so I cant really predict how people act. Why not try finding someone outside of school if your that worried ? If you dont want people to know you would have to hide it from your friends somehow.

Also I have a different view of relationships to you. I think all relationships start shallow. (except those on the internet where people cant see eachother) because for example that guy/girl over there you only interact with them because of looks, you dont know anything yet. After you do then relationships get deeper, and more personal. Only real exception is the internet because on here its all faceless personalities.

» Tue Apr 12, 2011 3:22 am

Nothing wrong with being single or just wanting to stay single.