The reason that I ask is because I have found Steam to be a massive pain in my...... I stopped playing and uninstalled two games because of Steam. So imagine my shock and horror when I bought and installed New Vegas only to find that Steam was going to be in control. It's hard to imagine that a company that produces such high quality games could be so gullible as to allow something like Steam to control their game. So before I get my hopes up... Is Steam going to control Skyrim?
Steam isn't going to, and has never controlled anything. Developers have full control of their games that are on Steam, and almost every single issue in games on Steam are the fault of the developers. The only real issue that is a direct result of Steam is if Steams servers are down... which as someone who has used Steam for years I can tell you is one in a blue moon. Sure, that doesn't stop irrational arm chair game developers from blaming Steam for all their issues, such as happened with Fallout New Vegas. Obsidian released a buggy mess of a game in FO:NV, as they have a LONG history of doing (it would have been a bigger shock if NV was a low bug game)... yet accusations were flying around the NV forums that it was all Steams fault. Of course it wasn't... but that didn't stop people without a clue from spreading such rumors.
Take your post for example: You say you had issues with two games that you had to uninstall BECAUSE of Steam. What exactly was the issue? I have about 50 games in my steam library, and I have never had one single issue that has prevented me from playing any of them (nor have any of my friends).
Now, the reason developers put their games on Steam are simple. First of all, Steam sells more PC games than any other distribution platform right now and offers developers a lot of useful tools. By not having a game on Steam, developers pass up a huge PC market and thats simply not smart. Developers can also add things such as achievements to their games with Steam, and patch/DLC distribution is a whole lot easier. Plus, Steam has a unique user base of several million... which in the PC market means Steam is extremely popular and used by a very large portion of the PC community. With all the up sides, the question shouldn't be "why are developers so gullible to let Steam control their game".... it should be "Why would a developer want to pass up the mountain of advantages Steam offers?".
Obviously there are real reason someone might have an issue with Steam. If you don't have internet access, and can't get it to install a game and enable Offline Mode... then you have a serious problem. Also, if you buy games from regions outside North America Valve has a terrible issue with currency conversions, and often screw people really bad who are not buying in American dollars. Other than that though, there are really no practical issues Steam has. Yes, paranoid people hate it because it functions as DRM and there are other irrational reasons people give... but the truth is most of them are simple fear mongering.
The point of gaming on a computer is because of the absolute control you get over your games. Steam takes that control and ships it down the river.
Your games? Who ever said they were YOUR games. In fact, when you buy a game... you are actually buying a license that says you can play a given game. You do not own the game itself, and developers have every right to tell you what you can or can't do with it. I understand PC gamers (PC gamer myself) expect more freedom with their games, but those times are changing and the amount of freedom we are given is drying up fast.
Now, with that said Steam doesn't take any control away from you. Well, I shouldn't say that as it does take your right to install games Offline. Other then that though, Id really like to know how you think Steam hurts your "absolute control" over your games? You can still play the game as you want, Steam has no effect on modding (I mod several games I own on Steam, with zero issue), and any customization available in a non-Steam game is possible in a Steam game. What other freedom do you have with non-Steam games don't use have with a game on Steam?