» Sun Nov 25, 2012 1:48 pm
I've never seen those two options come up in vanilla spouse/follower dialogue, so I'm gonna guess that it's either something added by a mod or perhaps the Hearthfire DLC.
On a side note, I'm assuming you've married Lydia, but getting her to go to bed will not help you with Lover's Comfort. The one who needs to sleep in the vicinity of his/her spouse is your character, not your spouse. As long as you are sleeping while Lydia is present in the same cell, it doesn't matter what she's doing.
If you are not getting the Lover's Comfort effect after sleeping while she's in the vicinity, it may be because of a glitch associated with the bonus. If you married her and asked her to move into one of your homes instead of offering to move into hers, you might not get the bonus. The trick is to say you want to live in her home and "move in" there first. In Lydia's case her home is Breezehome, but you have to specify that you want to live in *her* home, not Breezehome when it comes up in the options as one of the homes you own yourself.
So - say you want to live in her home, go there with her, sleep one time in "her" home, get the bonus. Then you can tell her you want to move into one of your homes (even if it's still Breezehome) and after that the bonus should work everywhere.