if it was just drugs? then yes second chances all around
but leaving your family? no i don't think so no second chances, if you had a family you shouldnt ruin there lifes too by running out, do you think they got a second chance because he got rediscovered
You have obviously never had a problem with alcohol or drugs, so I wouldn't expect you to understand what they can (and do) make you do. When you are under the influence of either you WILL say and do things that you would never do had you not been under the influence. Unfortunately that may include distancing yourself from your family because the drugs and alcohol have taken control of you. When you are in a state of mind like this, you cease to become the good person that you were, and become something else entirely.
When I was at my worst, I hadn't talked to my family in nearly ten years; not because I wanted to be an [censored] and just up and leave my family because I no longer liked them, but because the alcohol and drugs had taken over my mind and clouded my judgment to the point that I was no longer able to make a rational decision.
8 years ago I began what would eventually culminate with my transformation from an angry drug addict, to an addict who would begin to make amends with his family (unfortunately it took the death of my father to do this), to a person who five years ago now, walked into work (yes I still had a job, although I don't know how) and was handed a cup and told to "fill it up". I finally had hit the end of the road, I figured "this is it, the party's over." The next few weeks were torture knowing full well what lay ahead for me; A positive test IS grounds for immediate dismissal, but my employer must've seen something in me, and decided out of the kindness of his heart to give me a second chance to make things right. I vowed on that very day that I would not disappoint him. We have had six tests since that day at random intervals. I have not failed a single one, BECAUSE SOMEBODY GAVE ME A SECOND CHANCE.
You would do well to be a little kinder and a little more understanding of the problems that these people face everyday. I'll give you a bit of advice, and suggest that you head down to your local homeless shelter and offer to help those in need. While you are there I'd recommend that you talk to them about their stories, how they got to the point where they are now. I would be willing to bet that if you did this that you would come away with a different perspective.
Many of these want nothing more than to get away from the things that continue to hold them back, but like I said earlier, It is far, far easier to fall back down than it is to get back up and live life on life's own terms. But of course that appears to be beyond your comprehension. I hope that someday you will be able to find it in your heart to forgive those that have wronged you, and to give them a second chance to make it right. They may surprise you.
Take it from somebody who has been there.