here I tell you what:
I will not just download Wrye Bash Full, but I will praise the creators (which is really pushing it) if you just tell me straight out a general idea you think has a 80% chance of fixing the new deadly bug of the game: COL (lol acronyms: Crash on load)
otherwise I will continue to avoid having another uneeded program...I mean honestly, I have felt like BOSS has been a pretty worthless download as well. People tell me BOSS will probably fix this and that and blah blah, and I don't think it has really done anything.
So, I will download Wrye Bash when I know it will do something for me.
EDIT:
good news: It's not a .esp or .esm that is causing the crash, narrowing it down to DEFINATELY one of the game enhancements I installed such as the load screen, title video, or high res textures
in the mean time...I suppose I will continue to try everything I can to atleast get the game to run without crashing, then I will see if I can get it to run with mods or whatever I remove without crashing.