No what bothers me is, from a gameplay perspective, try to sympathize with the Thalmor.
I'll admit, unless you are a playing a high-elf who shares their ideas (which I've been playing a elitist high-elf since oblivion) you really can't. Although I suppose you could play a character who is wishing to get into their good graces for political or economic reasons.
However I think we need to look at it from a certain perspective. The Aldermeri Dominion, by virtue of being a High-Elven empire, is going to be inherently elitist in its function and attitudes. The Thalmor agents in Skyrim however, don't represent the average citizen or even soldier of that realm, they are essentially what is equivalent to the inquisition in our world.
Can you find sympathy with the inquisition? Not unless you agree with their goals of eradicating heresy.
Try to sympathize with Tenpenny. Try to sympathize with any Bethesda villain since Oblivion, and you'll find it's practically impossible because they all ONLY present bad personality traits, never good ones.
You're absolutely right with regards to Tenpenny, but well, I've been sympathizing with Eden and Autumn since Fallout 3 came out.
True, Bethesda did a poor job of fleshing out their characters, but there is enough there to understand and even agree with their goals if you look for it. Eden for instance, (nominally the worst "bad guy" in Fallout 3) is simply treating the problem of the Capital wasteland like the response to a pandemic. Instead of risking lives trying to fix a problem which is nigh-unfixable regardless, he just wants to clean the slate of everything (super mutants, ghouls, raiders, and unfortunately wastelanders) and start afresh and give the Enclave a home. Certainly doesn't seem totally evil to me. Ultimately his plan would kill far more hostile creatures than it would innocents, and he doesn't have an agenda beyond what he sees as the preservation of humanity and the rebuilding of society in a pocket of the world. I would say that gives him at least a healthy shade of gray.
Even the Mythic Dawn in Oblivion, to a degree, could be sympathized with. Not Mehrunes Dagon or Mankar Cameron, but the individual mythic dawn individuals. Ultimately they were svckered in my religious zealotry and paid dearly for it (Mankar's Paradise). Overall their goal was not good, but then again the Dawn ultimately convinced quite a few people that it indeed was.
There's no reason the Thalmor can't be elitist and snobbish and still make good points or still present other good qualities, but no, they're just bad.
Well they do have impeccable taste and style.
"One does not gather the most important people in Skyrim, and then serve them cheap wine and stale Bread."-Elenwen