There is evidence to support both sides of this debate, actually. I don't quite understand why this is such a volatile issue, to be honest. Can't we all just agree to differently misinterpret?
I think it tends to be a hot topic because people like to do the whole juvenile "evil is cool" thing. So when people put forward the interpretation of lore that actually follows previous tone (and, in the case of just what Sithis is and the types of tricks Mephala tends to play, previous facts) it gets messy because you can't pretend Sithis is some evil death god.
Man, I'm pretty much done here. Thought the lore forum would be a good place to read up on TES lore, but it's more like a place for people to debate their interpretations of the lore. NTY!
That is what TES lore is. Interpretations.