The remark about your attitude was more like "advice" since suggesting that someone is "a cretin" because he said he would complain to get it back, is not the best of responses.
I suggest he not be a complainer, because that is a generalized attitude of people who just simply complain: That they are cretins. People of undesirable company, and so on and so forth. I didn't suggest he was a cretin nor did I say he was a cretin.
Anyway, to the point - First of all none says "he is not enjoying the game because spellmaking is absent". They say "they would enjoy the game more if spellmaking was there". And they ought to say that since even the developers themselves pay some heed to what fans say. If you choose to treat it like a book - fine i respect that - but don't attack others who "fight" in order to have a more enriched book in their hands.
And how I was attacking someone for what he had to say in regards to his opinion about wanting spellmaking? I've for the most part have only talked about how a reasoned argument will find greater acceptance than outright whining and complaining, and that I am not such a one who particularly misses spellmaking. I wouldn't mind if it were included, either. It is not something that is of any import to me, and thus I am more or less ambivalent about it as a whole.
Please, do not put words in my mouth and suggest that I had said them. I have not attacked anyone for wanting to have spellmaking included in the game, and I have even gone out of my way to suggest a better means of discourse in order to be given attention in the first place. It's insulting, and especially to be accused of attacking anyone for it, on top of that.
Yes, magic in Skyrim is shunned. But still there are a lot of outlaw mages and ofc there is the college of Winderhold which is isolated from the rest of the world. The college itself, in which you become an arch-mage has dwelved deeper into magic than other colleges (like the one in the imperial city) allowing even necromancy and experiments. Being isolated has nothing to do with the college's potential/capabilities itself. Npc's themselves are making experiments and create new spells and this shows how "advanced" the college is - it is a downright example of why spell making is lore-friendly. You can't possibly excuse its lack due to lore by "nords hating magic" against all the examples i mentioned.
The keyword about a lot mages you pointed out that really illustrates it further: "outlaw." They aren't accepted anywhere that civil society is found.
And it's not "dwelved." It's "delved." Just saying.
And yes, the College does delve deeper into its research into magicka, especially in regards to a particular character I'm not going to name because it's likely considered a spoiler, but I refer to one whom you can speak with, but shaking hands isn't gonna happen.
But the College is largely shunned by society, and magic is regarded with suspicion. Spellmaking could be lore-friendly at only the College, but hardly anywhere else. Have you spent any time casting magic in towns? Not one person likes it when you do. Not even the court mages, and one will even lecture you on it and complain to you that you're just giving magic an even worse name for practicing it so openly and brazenly.
If I could remember the loading screen, there was one that basically said that magic is shunned, while another mentions that Skyrim and Nord culture in general champion the might of steel and brawn.
There's a fella in Morthal who is the only one to practice magic in that town, and everyone damn near hates him outright and would lynch him if given the chance, except for the one person who pretty much has the influence to prevent that from happening in the first place: The Jarl.
Bear in mind, much of this is also due to the fact that the Oblivion crisis was canonically just 200 years prior, and it's become pretty much common knowledge that it was magic that was largely involved in nearly destroying the entire world. People don't tend to forget things like that, and it's just as much so in Skyrim.