And while I know it is too late to say this, the attitude that one can download a mod and fix the game, that is what I mean by spoiled.
Its only spoiled if the reason for the fix was something Bethesda was never going to do anyways, like how some people "fix" the game by removing fast travel and using a different implementation, but is still complained about. I never expected Bethesda to remove this style of fast travel, and I really don't care that they didn't. If I don't like it, I can mod it out, but I'm not going to complain because it was obvious from the beginning that they were going to keep it. Just like it was obvious that ultra realism (eating, sleeping, drinking, temperature, etc) was not going to exist, but I can still mod that in just fine, and probably will.
Now, some things that are perceived by many to simply be bad game design SHOULD be fixed, and I suppose that is your point. Instead of just saying "Oh well, I'll fix it with mods." I would much rather see people getting up in arms about a bad mechanic or design choice, especially since console users can't mod.
Believe me, I want a good game as well, especially since the more mods I "need" to use, the more memory (RAM and hard drive) its going to eat up. I want the game to be as complete and awesome as possible
on its own.