It seems to me that with TES games, the first edition that you play is your favorite. The Morrowind "generation" of players love that game above any of the others, and any that will come to be. Many of them can't stand Oblivion, which has just as many zealous fans. That first experience of wonder that you have upon beginning an ES game, bewilderment from the gargantuan world completely open to explore, cannot be recreated. It's like entering Disneyland for the first time. At first the awe verges on panic as you wonder what you should do, where you should go, and feel totally lost. However, as you learn the ropes and familiarize yourself with the world, you develop a love for it. For this reason, we are imprinted with our first ES game and it becomes our favorite, and no matter how many features are added or removed we cannot reclaim that first playthrough. Nostalgia leads us to view our first game as the indisputably superior product. For this reason, I will never love Skyrim as much as my first ES game, and neither will you. However, to enjoy the game to its fullest you should stop comparing, stop trying to mold your present experiences into past ones, and relish in the beauty that Skyrim has to offer exclusively. That's my two cents about the constant arguments regarding the "best" ES game, hopefully it will open some minds to other opinions considering there is no truly best game, rather a best experience.
First you're telling us we'll always prefer a certain ES game because it was our first one, then you tell us to stop wanting certain aspects of it... Seems like a contradiction to me. If we want so many aspects from the first ES game we played, maybe that's because we thought those aspects were important and are needed? Maybe those are aspects that made us love the game in the first place? Maybe we just don't like the other games that much because they feel lacking in certain departments, and not simply because they're not the first ES game we play?